One of my friends is getting married. We are friends, hang out here & there, but are not close. More of the social circle friendships. We don't spend time with each other unless it's in a group. We don't go to each other's homes or on trips and so on. Just social circle friends.
She is getting married in 2 weeks & I was not invited. I am totally ok with that. The issue is that when one of the circle friends asked what I had gotten her, I told her I was not planning on getting a gift. I explained I wasn't invited to the engagement party, showers or wedding. That the two are in their mid 40's, have been together for 10 plus years and have all they need. I feel that a gift is not necessary from me, but I will send a card to congratulate.
Social circle friend was floored by my response and said it was beyond rude of me.
I am more than happy to congratulate, but I do not feel I owe a gift. What do you think?
