Is a gift required when I was not invited?

No invite, no gift.

No, no gift should be expected. A card is a nice gesture and is plenty in this case.

I would not send a gift and I believe there reactions were not apropriate. I don't expect a gift from anyone, especially someone I didn't invite.

I personally would not send a gift or a card. I might send a text message of congratulations the next day... but like you said, you aren't close. you don't NEED to get her anything.

I agree with PP, a gift nor a card are required if you're not invited. It's a nice gesture that you want to congratulate them.

No. I wouldn't get anything but maybe just say congrats the next time I saw her

Definitely don't need a gift. I think the card is a very nice gesture but not necessary as well.

Definitely don't send a gift if you're not invited. Someone gave us a gift when they weren't invited and we still feel like shit about it. It's a grandma for a family we're close with so we see her during their family get togethers and that's it. Most of that family wasn't invited since we had limited funds.

They're dumb. Why would you send a gift if you weren't invited?

As others have said, absolutely not required in this situation.

Hi date twin! I think it's pretty cool for you to even send a card. I wouldn't worry about your other friend's opinions.

Haven't read the comments:

You definitely do not need to send a gift if you weren't invited. Some people consider sending a gift when you weren't invited awkward.

No gift. A card is plenty!

Um absolutely no way in hell would I buy a gift for a couple who didn't invite me to their wedding. Unless it was an immediate family member who decided to elope with no guests.

Dude, why are you even concerned? You weren't invited. That means no gifts.

If you are not invited, do not get a gift. You can certainly congratulate her!

I mean your response was a bit harsh (truthful yes, but probably too brusque). I would've gone with "I wasn't invited to their wedding and I haven't bought anything."

No gift. And honestly, if I were in this brides position and you gave me a gift, it would only make me feel awkward and bad for not inviting you. A card is very thoughtful.

In situations like this I typically do a card and a bottle of wine, it's a nice gesture without anyone throwing side eye at you one way or the other. Plus, if the tables were turned I'd appreciate it as well.

A gift is definitely not required in this situation. A card is a thoughtful gesture for someone in your social circle though.