Is a gift required when I was not invited?

I am getting married myself in October to add. I would not expect a gift from anyone, only their presence. For persons not invited I absolutely would not expect anything at all other than maybe a verbal congratulations in person.

If you are not invited to any o the parties you are under no obligation to send a gift. Was everyone else in the social circle invited to the various parties? Sending a card is sweet and thoughtful and if you want to send a gift, fine, but you shouldn't feel obligated.

No, you are absolutely not required to get her a gift!

I personally never expect gifts either. If someone wasn't invited but I was still friends with them, nope I would not expect a gift.

I definitely agree with you. A gift is not warranted, and a card is very sweet

No a gift is not required. If your not invited then why would you send a gift unless you were close and they were having a really small wedding. I'm not sending a gift to every random distant friend just because I found out they were getting married from someone else.

You weren't invited to anything, I definitely don't think you need to send anything. It honestly could make them feel awkward if you send a gift even though you aren't invited. I think a verbal congratulations or even a card is very nice.

Definitely not! And honestly I'd feel guilty for receiving a gift from someone I didn't invite (even if that person understood why that were not invited). I'm shocked your friend would even ask what you were getting her. Definitely not required of you! I agree that sending a card would be sweet, but you already planned on that. You're totally fine!

You are not obligated to send her anything.

Yeah I would feel terrible if someone I didn't invite to the wedding sent me a gift -- I think that a card is a lovely gesture and nothing else is required on your end!

No gifts if you aren't invited

If I were the bride and groom and received something from someone we didn't invite, I'd wonder if it was passive-aggressive.

No, gifts are never required

You're npt required to send a gift if you're not invited. I think verbal congrats is good enough. I dont expect gifts either and didnt ask for no shower either. Each of my guests that are invited is cause we want you to celebrate pur special day not gove us anything. Your presence is enough

No obligation. A card is nice and if you wanted to I don't think it would be an issue to get her a small gift but it could actually make things more awkward because she may think you thought you should have been invited

No I would not buy her a gift

I would send a card saying well wishes but I wouldn't get a gift

If you are not invited you do not need to give a gift. They should not expect that you will.

I don't think you owe the 'social group friend' anything! No gift, No card! Just a simple congrats when u see her. The card u're planning to send is more than enough, but it's not obligatory.

In my opinion, a gift would be quite inappropriate to send if you were not invited to the wedding.