Is 8 too many? Do numbers even matter?

You're not crazy. There's nothing wrong with a big WP.

I think coordingting 8 BM's might be hard to manage. If your up to the task go for it!

My cousin had 10 BMs and 14 GMs for their wedding and she managed to keep them all in check but one BM who ended up dropping out on the rehearsal dinner night. I think its manageable.

You are not crazy at all.

I personally have a very small BP, 2 for me, and 2 for Fh. But those are the two people I feel closest to in the world.

I think you should choose the people you feel are closest to you and desevre that honor. If it so happens to be 8 people, then you are just a lucky girl to have those people.

Go for it!

My Fh is having 7 GM and I am having 5 BM( as on now, my best friend just moved to AZ)

I have 6! 8 isnt too many. It's your wedding day so its up to you

I think you'll be fine. I have 7 and I see it as more people to help get things together. It's awesome that you have that many people who love you & want to share your special day And remember......They are not little kids that you have to keep in check after all.

Yes I say go for it!!!! I had a large BP (10) and as you stated each one of them meant something to me and my wedding would not have been complete without each and every one of them. As far as keeping them in order just make sure that you MOH (if u have one) will be able to keep them in order to minimize any stress getting to you. Good luck with your planning

I have 10 in my bridal party so no 8 is not too many at all

If it's important to you that those 8 women are standing up with you on your wedding day, then ask them. 8 bridesmaids is a lot for a smaller wedding (we have 6 on each side for a bigger wedding and that feels like a big WP) but who cares??

Thanks ladies, your right I am lucky and I would rather see it as that! I just felt for a small wedding it seemed a bit much since were only inviting our closest friends anyway but the more I think of it, I just can't cut one out without feeling it's not right. There's actually one or two more whose feelings might be hurt, but I feel the line has to be drawn somewhere! lol. DH may only have 5 on his side, but I am not worried about even numbers.

Keep in mind the size of the ceremony space. I just officiated a wedding where the 7 BM & 7 GM could not stand beside the MOH & BM. So they stood in a semi-circle behind me (I felt as tho I had back-up singers!).

I could have gone up to 8, but decided to keep it small and I only have 3. I decided that I like my friends too much to make them be bridesmaids They are so grateful! They still get to come to all the pre-wedding shenanigans, but they get to come to my wedding as guests and enjoy the day without the stress of helping.

Absolutely its ok if thats what you want! It's your day and if you have 8 amazing ppl in your life and only 20 ppl attending the wedding its ok. It's what you want. How many times in your life can you say "it's about me". Enjoy it! :-)