Inviting spouses of co-workers...

^^agree

I was afraid of this response, but do appreciate it-- thank you!

^^^I agree. If someone were to invite me to a wedding but NOT include my FH...I wouldn't go.

Agree with Erin

I wouldnt be ok with my husband going when i wasnt invited. And i doubt he would feel ok going without me. Not okay.

I agree, it's rude not to invite the spouse. However, I do have 2 women here at my job that are like work besties and they told me they would be coming together, so I didn't have to invite the spouse of the one that's married.

First of all, you have a bit over a year. Co-workers are a fantastic group to put on a B-list. You can change jobs, they could change jobs, a whole slew of things could happen between now and when you send out invites in November.

Put them on a B-list and invite them if you have enough declines. Or don't invite them at all, I think that's generally better.

But if you do invite, yes, you need to invite their spouses.

I'm only inviting 3 people from my work, I work with over 30 people in my office and there's no way I can invite everyone. The people I'm inviting is my office manager (who I'm friends with outside of work - no spouse, she does not get a +1 either). My manager and my direct boss.. They are both married so I am inviting their spouses. My direct boss also has a 5 year old so she's invited too since we are a kid-friendly wedding. If you don't have room to invite their spouse (not a +1) then don't invite co-workers Hard, but fair.

Thanks guys! We're of course inviting our friends' significant others but I wasn't sure how defined the lines were on co-workers' SO.

I agree with the above . I was invited to and attended a coworkers wedding without fh. We are a department of mainly women and fairly close so it was a good time. But I will say fh did not appreciate that he was not invited.

There was actually a bride who planned to do what Jessica's coworker did (I don't think she's gotten married yet)-- they were all younger women, super close, and worked in a casual environment. The bride talked to them all beforehand and asked them if they would be okay going to the wedding as a group without their spouses/significant others. They seemed excited about the idea, but obviously it takes a very unique situation for this to be appropriate.

The same rules apply for co-workers. If they are married or engaged/in a long term relationship, their significant other is invited. I would love to invite more people from work...but I'd have to invite their spouses and there just isn't room in the guest list for that. So I chose just a few co-workers who I was especially close with.

I was planning on inviting my co-workers spouses but they collectively came to me and told me to just invite them and they would come as a group (9 people).They said their spouses would probably not want to go or want to stay home with kids anyway so not worry about it. Probably not the norm, but its what my co-workers asked of me.

I would not be offended if my FH wasn't invited to a co-workers wedding. Seems like a stupid thing to get offended about. If I was close with the other co-workers that were going I'd go and have fun with them. If not and I felt that I'd feel uncomfortable then I would politely decline and stay home. I don't expect someone to pay an extra hundred dollars so I can hang out with the same person I see everyday anyway that they don't even really know. I know it's etiquette to invite them and I will be inviting spouses to mine but, again, not I would not be offended. I would understand.

There are only like 12 people who work in my store. I am very close with my coworkers. A few of them will be invited wit their significant others. I can't imagine them inviting me somewhere without FH. I wouldn't do that to them.

I agree with all the everyone else. All of our guests (family, friends and co-workers) will be invite along with his/her significant other). Tables turned, is be a bit hurt if he was invited to a wedding or event and I was left out.

I think most people think it is rude and wouldnt be okay with it

Personally I don't care if I'm not invited to a wedding with FH and he doesn't care either. I go by myself places all the time. I'm very happy talking to other people (plus usually if I am invited somewhere just by myself I know other guests relatively well) actually I like it. But I think that puts me in the minority.

I think it's fine, for example, my FH's best friend's wife i do not get along with and neither does he (FH). So I don't feel bad at all not inviting her. So overall its your day and you can do whatever you want. So I think thats perfectly fine. Good luck. ❤