Inviting Coworkers??

I am one of those that believes in "all or none." My vote would be to invite the boss, his wife, their sons, and both coworkers plus their families.

I would invite all, so that your boss and his family have someone to mingle with since he might not know your family. If it fits in your budget of course.

Im going to disagree with the all or nothing approach. I invited my two bosses, one of my colleagues and one of the assistants. That’s about 1/4 of my office. Everyone I invited was discreet when they received the save the date, and I may invite others depending on how things shape up as the wedding get closer, but honestly it’s your wedding so you should invite those that you want to be there to celebrate with you. As long as people are discreet and don’t talk about the fact that they are invited, etc, I don’t think you should feel an obligation to invite everyone. People are, in my experience, understanding that weddings are expensive. My boss was touched that he was invited as he didn’t expect to make the cut in the first place. That said, if you can fit it in your budget I have found that people are very touched to be included so there’s nothing wrong with inviting them all.

I only chose to invite the coworkers I see outside of work or I got to know well during the year due to us being new teachers together. The only other coworker invited I knew Before I began working There. My boss keeps hinting she wants to be invited but I will not be inviting anyone else there. We have a limited amount of space.

It depends on how big the group is I guess. So if you only want to invite like 3/6 for instance then that's the case where I'd say all or none but if you have 30 coworkers and you're only close to 5 then that's where it's ok to just invite 5.

I would invite them all because is a small office and your boss won’t have to be alone just with the wife. I think it would avoid drama later on at work.

As PP mentioned, a good rule of thumb is that if you don’t see them outside of work, you can skip the invite. If you have extra room in your budget and venue it may be worth it to include everyone and avoid work drama, but you know your numbers and your office best.

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Jasmine,

That's what I was thinking. I'm sure they would be just fine and find people to mingle with but I know how I would feel going to a wedding, or anywhere really, where I don't know anyone and I don't want to do that to any of my guests if I can help it. Thanks for your input!

Your job is very similar to mine. We have about 20 employees. Small fam business, their whole fam works there. Plus I’ve met the spouses/S.O. who don’t! I invited 17 people/S.O. from my job (the entire office + 2 warehouse guys). Only 9 people were able to make it.

So you can invite them both but it’s possible they both can’t come. I had one coworker + S.O. I invited because I invited all the other office folks and it would’ve been really awkward not to invite him. I see all of these people daily.

I was fired right after I got engaged and I remember thinking, "Well, that's less people I have to invite to the wedding!" Lol!!!

Other than, I did invite my boss from a different previous job. Even though he no longer owns the franchise I worked for, I still think he is the best boss I've ever had and I wanted him to be there. He couldn't make it.

My husband invited his coworkers from both of his jobs. His 9-5 is with a small company of, like, under 5 people. His dad's company and this other company ran their businesses together out of the same room for decades. The two companies have recently merged into one. Naturally, his parents invited them all and their wives to our wedding. For his other job, he is a journalist. He invited the coworkers and editors that he considers his friends, along with their partners. Even our photographer, Reena Rose Photography is a photojournalist for the paper he works for. She also specializes in weddings and events.

If you would like to invite anyone from your job, you should invite your bosses and their significant others at the very least. They will be honored by the invitation, even if they can't make it. It also shows how much you respect and admire them as your employer.

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That's probably what I'll do. And you're right...they may not show up! I just want to avoid any awkwardness by not inviting him so I guess I'll just have to suck it up and extend an invite. Thanks for your input!

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My boss is definitely getting an invite. When I told him my fiance and I finally picked a date and a venue he said, "Well if you invite us, we'll definitely come!" I would honestly be kind of disappointed if he didn't come. I did consider asking him his opinion on inviting the guys from the office but I wasn't sure if that would be tacky? Anyway, thanks for your advice!

Hey there! I also work in a small family office. I am fersure inviting my boss and his wife. My office manager and her husband. And one other co worker and her husband. 2 other co workers work one day a week and i dont really know them. So i wont he inviting them. Id say just invite the people you are close with