Savvy October 2020

Inviting coworkers to wedding

Caitlin, on October 1, 2019 at 12:03 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 29
Hello everyone! I was wondering if anyone is planning on inviting coworkers to there wedding. If so, are you planning on inviting bosses and supervisors, or just work friends? I started a job about six months ago and I have made a few friends there, we don’t hang out outside of work so I was wondering if I should invite them to my wedding or not. Thanks in advance!


Latest activity by Shannon, on October 4, 2019 at 10:44 AM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    We only invited coworkers that we have relationships with outside of work. We don't hang out with our supervisors or bosses so they weren't invited.

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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
    Amber ·
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    I'm pretty much in the same boat as you are. I'm new to my department (came here in May) and while they've been nice to me, we just aren't close at all and have definitely never hung out outside of work. I felt like I should invite them all because they know I'm getting married and have asked about how the planning is going, but I'm honestly just not comfortable sharing such an intimate event with people I barely know. I do think I'll invite my boss, she's taken the time to get to know me a little here and there and I would feel comfortable if she attended. I think I can get away with inviting just the boss without offending coworkers.

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    I'm inviting my whole office. I work with 8 other people here. We are all close, minus the accountant who works here 2 days a week. I can't stand her, but I am going to invite. I feel it would be rude to invite everyone else here and not her. Kind of just hoping for a decline from her to be honest. My FH on the other hand can't decide what he wants to do, he works with a much larger group at a clinic. He really cannot stand some of his co-workers, thinks they gossip too much. So he is undecided about what to do!

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I invited all coworkers. I have about 12 and I had a larger wedding so it was sort of all or none for the invites for me in regards to the coworkers.
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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
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    I probably would have invited my work team if the wedding was local.
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  • Megan
    Expert October 2019
    Megan ·
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    My FH and I had criteria for coworkers who got invited. They had to be people we hang out with outside of work (so, friends) and we had to know them longer than a few months (high turnover at my FHs work). My advice is find criteria that works for both of you and move forward that way.🍀 Best of luck to you!
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    We have a small office, so I invited everyone. My husband didn't invite anyone, he's not very close with them. I suggest not sending save the dates to coworkers, and not making the invite decisions until right before invites go out. People quit/get fired, new people are hired, etc. all super often so don't jump to decisions now when they might not work there next October.

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  • Fmv
    Super October 2020
    Fmv ·
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    Invite whoever you are comfortable with!
    I work for a small dental office, im inviting my boss and his wife, my office manager and her husband, one co worker and her husband.
    There is also a lady who works 4 hours on Friday that i will not be inviting. We dont talk and I dont have a relationship with her.
    So basically order whoever you are comfortable with and would like at your wedding
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  • Ivy ORP
    VIP October 2019
    Ivy ORP ·
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    Only one current coworker was invited. It is someone my FW has known for years and talks to outside of work. I have been with my company for 2 years but did not invite anyone from my office. While I do hang out with one or two people, it would have been more complicated to invite one or two and not others.

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  • Jennifer
    VIP August 2021
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    I've been temping in one place since January and am not inviting anyone from here! Mainly because i'm not close with anyone, but also because being a temp I never know when my contract could end and I move on! FH works in a smaller team and invited all of them!

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  • Jodie
    Expert August 2020
    Jodie ·
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    I am a float in a medical clinic so I work between around twenty locations. It's impossible for me to invite everyone so I just picked a handful that I have a close relationship with to invite and left it at that.

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  • K
    Expert October 2020
    Katie ·
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    My FH is a Community College Professor so he invited the 4 other professor and their SO but not any deans or upper level management. They are a very close group and one of his other professors and wife are my Godparents and is also the music minister at our church and will be doing our ceremony music so his whole family is invited. Another co-worker/professor is one of FHs groomsmen.

    He he knows a lot of other co-workers from campus but none that he hangs out with all the time or has a personal friendship with mostly all just acquaintances.
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  • Stephanie
    Dedicated October 2019
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    My FMIL invited 8 people from her work that my FH knows kind of well, he invited 4 people from his work and I'm inviting 0 from my current job but 3 from my previous (which was 3 years ago and I've been at my current almost a year). Honestly, there's no obligation to invite but I understand the desire. Only invite people you'd probably be cool with seeing you drinking or acting silly; usually those are people who you hang out with outside of the job or that you have a good relationship with at your job. I kind of basically told FH: "Would you feel like wanting to buy these people food outside of the wedding or doing something for/with them outside of the wedding?" If so -- invite, if not-- don't or think about it.

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  • Keyona
    Devoted August 2020
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    I invited co-workers from my previous jobs i had a relationship outside of work. At my new employer I met some people but I don't think I'll invite them to the wedding. I think if you had the space you can but I don't think they should expect to just meeting you.

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  • J
    Dedicated February 2020
    Juli ·
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    Hi! I’m not inviting any of my co workers to my wedding. We really don’t hang outside of work so I wouldn’t bother inviting them to my wedding. The preference is up to you though.
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I have a close relationship with my supervisors, so I invited all of them. It really depends on the type of relationship you have with them

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  • Amanda
    Dedicated June 2020
    Amanda ·
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    Hi! I am inviting 4 of my close work friends but we do hang out, outside of work.

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  • Violet
    Savvy March 2021
    Violet ·
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    I also too started a new job about 6 months ago and have a coworker that constantly says "I want an invite to the wedding". We are in no way "friends" outside of work, as she is older than my parents. I am too nice to blatantly say no, so I kind of awkwardly laugh when she brings it up. Wondering how I should approach this and explain that my wedding is intimate with family and close friends.

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  • Veronica
    Just Said Yes May 2022
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    My FH and I are inviting a few co-workers, but only one's we've hung out with or have tried to hang out with outside work. This ends up being 3 co-workers each plus SOs, so this ends up being 9 total for us. It all depends on your relationship with them and if you'd feel comfortable inviting them.
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  • Suzie
    Super October 2021
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    Neither of us hang out with coworkers outside of work, so we won’t be inviting them. I def would not want my boss there, that would be weird for me! If people ask, we will just tell them we’re planning a small ceremony and are only inviting close friends and family.

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