Might sound mean or rude or whatever but we have huge families and a few friendship groups so work colleagues were never going to be top of the list. At this point only a couple are invited and some others will be once our obligatory invites come back yes/no. My Fiance is inviting 4 that he gets on really well with - and we are having a summer wedding and hes a teacher so its no real issue, it'll be old news by the time they return.
I am however having a bridal shower in the loosest sense of the word. I didn't want a massive hen weekend with tons of girls so asked my bridesmaids to plan a hen weekend with just the bridesmaids and then a hen party that was suitable for the flower girl and friends daughters to come along to. So it'll start civilised in the afternoon (and be affordable) then those who wish to make a night of it can!
there are 5 female colleagues in my team. 2 are invited to the wedding. 1 of them I was close with before working together and her daughter is my flower girl. So she is obviously invited.
my uncertainty is with the other 4. I don't really want to invite just one of them to the shower as she wont really know anyone (shes invited to the wedding but knows some of the people invited to the wedding). But the other 3 aren't at this point invited to the wedding. They might be if we get some rsvps unable to attend. Do I wait until I know their is space for them at the wedding or do I invite them anyway. My dilemma comes because i've read so many rude comments about it being tacky inviting people to the bridal shower and not the wedding. But I have been invited to hen parties for colleagues and not the wedding before. I never felt weird about it - in fact Id have felt more strange if I had been invited. For me it also takes away the dilemma of who from work to invite to the wedding because if I invite all of the women but none of the men I could create awkwardness within the team. Any thoughts?
