Inviting Co-workers?? Feel Pressure?

DH and I use to work for a family owned business and we felt the pressure to invite the owner, his son and then my boss. We also debated about what co workers to invite. I ended up getting another job, thank goodness, before the wedding so that took care of my boss. We didn't send STD to the boss or son just incase we decided not to invite them but we did in the end. But it was more out of obligation then anything.

I would feel obligated to invite my boss, but both FH and I are inviting every single one of our coworkers. We both have small workplaces and are very close with all of our coworkers. We've been working at each of our places for a long time. It just felt right to us. I don't feel obligated to invite all of them though, just my boss. Although, it definitely makes it easier when they ask, because they are all super curious about our wedding.

Now things will get interesting for us...I just accepted a new job and start in 2 weeks. I am still inviting everyone from my current company because we already committed to that. It will be interesting to see how many come...though I think most of them still will. For my new company, I'm going to sort of play it by ear, but I will probably invite at least my boss (possibly other people depending on how it goes).

FH & I work at the same place and we're inviting most of the people that work there. I kinda feel obligated, but then again they're kinda like family now. There are a few people we aren't inviting, and they are going to be unhappy about it, but we don't like them, would never hang out with them outside of work. I want people there that we like and are going to have a good time with!

See that's the thing. Depending on where you work..someone is going to feel left out, no??

Nope. I feel like if I invite one person I'd be obligated to invite everyone to prevent hurt feelings, and I just can't afford to do that. So I'm not inviting anyone, and if anyone asks (which would be rude, but happens) I plan on explaining that we're on an extremely tight budget and were limited to very close friends and immediate family only.

I’m feeling some pressure to invite my coworkers. They ask me all the time about the wedding and how things are going with the wedding planning. I’ve been with my company for almost 6 years so I’ve gotten to know most everyone pretty well. I am planning on inviting some but not all of my coworkers...there are just a few that I am closer to than others. I hope no one gets their feelings hurt over it but I’m moving right after we get married so my last day will be a few days before the wedding so maybe I will be able to avoid any awkward moments from those I didn’t invite. But I really think it will be fine…I don’t think the coworkers who don’t get an invite are really expecting to get one.

It really just depends on your company and organizational culture.

We both have small offices like I said...mine has 15 employees and his has 25ish...so it's very small. We work with everyone on a daily basis. We get close with everyone and at least once a month there is an outside-of-work hangout (we do dinners, bonfires, parties, etc.) So our culture is very much like a family and we are very close with everyone.

The company I'm moving to has almost 300 employees. Obviously, I will only be working on a daily basis with the people within my department and won't even meet a lot of the people ever. That's why I would keep it limited to just my boss, and possibly others within my department (my department only has 4 other people).

I have heard that you should invite your boss to your wedding. Just as a courtesy. Unless it is an extremely small, family only event...that's what I've heard.

If you're going to branch out beyond just your boss, then be very careful. That's where it gets tricky...To be honest, if I were to just choose straight-up which of my coworkers I want to invite, it would be 8-10 of them, but at that point, I just invited them all because it made sense to.

I've often heard the rule of thumb for co-workers is to only invite co-workers that you are friends with beyond work. So if you don't hang out with them outside of work, don't feel obligated to extend an invite. That's the rule I plan on going by anyway.

Good rule E&R

I wouldn't feel obligated - the few people I'm inviting from work I'm actually friends with. Same with FH, he invited 3 work friends who he's close with and that's it. Only invite the people you want to share the day with. It sounds like you haven't been there that long, so I wouldn't worry about it.

I'm using the same rule, E&R.

Ironically, Brides.com just sent this to me:

IDEA OF THE DAY:

If you are unable to invite your coworkers to your wedding, be sure to refrain from discussing wedding plans at the office. While your colleagues are bound to ask a few questions about your upcoming nuptials, keep wedding-related chatter to a minimum—after all, how would you feel if they kept gabbing about a party you weren't invited to?

We started out with 3 people and their significant others from my finances job. now he feels "obligate" to invite 3 more and 2 have significant others. My list now jumped up 5 more. Yuck!

I do, and have even had one coworker (who I wasn't planning on inviting) tell me she wants to come. Its funny cause a lot of the girls ask and not too many of them used to like me. I even had this coworker tell. Everyone behind my back that I was ghetto! This is because I went off on her...weird and a very uncomfortable spot to be in.

FH and I worked at the same school for 2 years until I left 3 months ago, so we did feel obligated to invite everyone but decided against it. We're only inviting our co workers who we actually consider friends (aka we hang with them outside of work). That's about 5 between us. Our bosses are not invited. They will get over it.

They say most people come to your wedding to look at what you have on and how you pulled it off...I wouldn't invite people that I wasn't comfortable with no matter if they asked or not.

I am not inviting current coworkers and I do not feel obligated. At the time of the wedding I will have been at this job 1.5 years. Our department is fairly small (16 people) so I would need to invite all or none. However, I am inviting former coworkers who I am actually friends with. My coworkers are adults and know that weddings are expensive. When asked I told them it was just close family and friends, they definitely understand.

I left my old job 5 month back, but i had already "verbally" invited people from there, and invited them to my engagement party, so they are still coming, but now i have finally got hired at my local hospital, and i am going to be working there 6 months before my wedding, I am not sure I have room to invite more coworkers, so i feel like i am just going to have to not mention it to much because i dont want my to think i am inviting them. but i have a funny feeling i am going to end up inviting at least the people on my shift.

I invited my principal and a couple of the teachers I talk to regularly. There is no way I could invite everyone I work with. Its not in the budget and quite frankly, I don't want some of them at the wedding.