Invites

I’m planning to give +1’s to people who are either:

-In a committed (1+ year) relationship
-unconnected to any other guests (the only person they’d be able to talk to would be me or my FW)
-traveling/not local to us AND not family (logic being that traveling family can travel and lodge with other family)

I would love to be able to offer everyone a +1, but I realized I have to be realistic about numbers. I feel like these criteria are generous without going overboard.

I would at least make sure you offer a plus one to anyone in a committed relationship. My aunt decided on a "no ring no bring" policy for my cousin's wedding, so I couldn't bring my boyfriend of almost 2 years at the time to a family event. I was royally angry, especially with her griping about how he hadn't put a ring on it anyway, so I ended up skipping the wedding entirely. For our wedding. FH and I are keeping it a tight list, but we're making sure family get plus ones.

View Quoted Comment Yes this is what we did as well !
we are pretty close with everyone coming so some people we have just flat out asked if they want a plus one lol

We gave a plus one to guests who we knew were solo. Like I didnt give my adult cousins one bc they were coming with family.
But I dont agree with the no ring no bring or over a year of dating rule people have. Its rude to not acknowledge people's relationships while celebrating your own. Every couple has their own timeline. My bro married after 2 months of dating my SIL. H and I married after 3.5 years of dating.

Plus ones are for single guests only. Adult children aren’t plus ones, significant others aren’t plus ones.
Guests in relationships should always be invited with their significant other by name. My FW and I would be address by Caytlyn xxx and Whitney xxx, not Caytlyn xxx and Guest.
Children of your guests are optional, whether they’re adults or minors. If you choose to invite kids, it should be all or nothing. If you invite adult children, they should receive their own invitation.
Plus ones for single guests are also optional, but you should follow the same criteria for all single guests. If you decide to give a plus one to any single guests who won’t have other friends at the wedding, stick with that. Don’t give a plus one to Joe because you like him and not give a plus one to Sally because she’s not your favorite person.

We invited everyone who was in a relationship along with their significant others. But if they were single we didn’t give them the option to bring an extra guest

Plus ones are for guests who are truly single at the time invitations go out and are not required. Anyone in a relationship when you send invites should both be invited by name. Anyone over 18 should get their own invitation and should also have their significant other invited by name if in a relationship.

I only gave plus ones to my bridal party and single friends

I gave all adult singles(not in any type of relationship) the option to bring a plus one. Couples were invited by name and not given plus ones. I only considered children as part of their family and not given plus ones if they were under 18.

In our case, most of our single guests are not using their plus one🤷‍♀️ and chose to attend alone. Our wedding is an international destination though so it may have been awkward to invite someone you're not serious with. Although, i wouldn't be surprised if my sister showed up with a date she met on tinder lol

View Quoted Comment I am 100% on board with giving a +1 to the singles however we have guests that are twin brothers and would be coming together. They’re both in relationships but we couldn’t pick their significant other out of a crowd because we only really associate with them, not their gf’s. So since the boys would be coming together, they wouldn’t get a plus one on their invites. That’s why I’m asking! We don’t want a bunch of significant others there that we don’t really know.

We only gave one person a plus one that wasn't married or in a long term relationship. He is FH's friend from middle school and only knows us. I have 2 other friends who are single and I didn't give them a plus one because they both know my immediate family and some of my friends. I know one of them is bringing her daughter with her to the wedding city and they are going to do something the day after the wedding so depending on RSVPs, I may extend to her daughter but she does not expect it.

View Quoted Comment This!

We followed what was said in caytlyns post. We gave all single people a plus one..but I felt very strongly that if we loved someone enough to invite them, they should be able to bring someone to enjoy the day with.

View Quoted Comment Yes, I agree with this. Well said!

View Quoted Comment I understand where you're coming from. Personally, I would have given your guests the choice to bring a plus one or not.

I get how you feel though. There will be some guests there from my side (like my Uncle's girlfriend) that FH and I don't know at all. That same Uncle didn't invite us to his daughters wedding. And, he wasn't formally invited to ours. But, he's coming and with 10 other people! His daughters and their families🤷‍♀️ We are paying $200 per person, for food and bar. But, I'm happy they want to celebrate with us. That's how I'm choosing to look at it anyway.

View Quoted Comment My logic for this is that, even if I don’t know their SO very well, if they’re in a serious/committed relationship then their SO is part of the family, so not inviting them would be like inviting one cousin and not the other. Not inviting serious SO’s will make them feel like they aren’t a part of/welcome in the family, something that’ll linger and potentially cause issues in their relationship, especially if they decide to get married.

There are no rules really with plus ones it’s all up to you girl! My cousin did anyone over 18 got a plus one. But I also have a 21 year old male cousin who switches girlfriends seriously every 6 months so do I find it necessary to give him a plus one? Ehh not really. I’m still lost at what I’m going to do as well!

View Quoted Comment I was told by a wedding event planner that I’m close with that if they are coming with family, no matter their age, and they aren’t married, then they don’t receive a plus one. Which makes sense to me. Kinda just wanted to see how everyone else is doing it. My venue pricing changes on the amount of people that are attending so if I let everyone that wanted to bring a plus one, bring a plus one, I’m going to end up in the next bracket.

It's your wedding, so you can do whatever you want with your invites. However, some people might be upset by your decisions if you don't follow what's considered to be a good mannered approach.

My SO of ten years (who was living with me and we had a four year old at the time) wasn't invited to my cousins wedding because we weren't married or engaged. It really made me upset..especially since she gave some of her single friends plus ones. I had a couple drinks, ate, and left.

View Quoted Comment Yeah save your money, and skip a few plus ones lol