Invites from the "maybe list"

That's a tough question, I mean the only solution i have is to send them a formal invite without the rsvp card, contact them and tell them some excuse as to why it wasn't included and just let them know to call you if they can make it, i think contacting them verbally though might make them think even more though that they're last minute additions. Just my thoughts, it's a tough situation, i'm not sure how to really handle that though.

I wouldn't send it, I am sorry. If they weren't on your initial invite list, please don't B-list them. It would be very obvious

There is no polite way to do this because it is obvious that they are a second choice invite.

Hey listen I was in the same boat I got freaked out about my guest list and had a couple and a single girl that I'd left out who we rly wanted to invite and didn't because of my freak out. It was past the RSVP date and so I sent them both a fb message apologizing for my poor planning and told them we would really be happy if they would come and celebrate with us. They are overjoyed and said no offense taken. They understand the stresses of a wedding and the cost of it all. They are all young so they're just happy to be coming. I mailed them the invite and they sent the response back with their food choice within a week. Was it proper etiquette? No. Did they understand? Yes. Is everyone happy? Yes!. I would contact them first and then mail the invite.

I totally agree with Danielle. It would be silly not to invite them at all because you dont want them to feel like second choice. When it comes to weddings some people are happy to be invited anytime!

I agree with Rachey. I think they'd be happy to hear from you and if they aren't happy then they can simply decline.

If you want to invite more people, you can. But there is no way to do it politely and without them feeling like they were a second choice, because honestly, they WERE.

How to tell them they are invited depends on their personalities and how you think they would react. You could be honest and explain that you didn't think that there would be space in your venue/budget, but unexpectedly there was some. You could just apologize for your oversight and either give them invitations or send word some other way (phone call, etc)

But there truly is no way to invite someone from your "B" list politely.

It's too late to do this. You probably could have gotten away with it if you got declines the first week after sending out the invites and sent them then, but at this point it would be really obvious.

The only exception I made is I had a friend I had recently reconnected with like a month before the wedding and knew he wouldn't be offended if I asked them to come last minute. He came and had a great time reuniting with other friends from high school.

Lie through your teeth. Call them and say you are following up on RSVP's and have not received theirs yet and when they say "We did not get an invitation" volunteer to resend it!

Thanks Rachey, I agree with your thinking. I called the one couple and they were excited to be coming and totally understood how hard wedding planning is with two big families. I am mailing them an invite today so they have all the info....no hard feelings - everyone is excited! Thanks everyone for your advice.

I'd be perfectly happy with being on a B-list.

I say call or e-mail those people and say that you would like to invite them to your wedding. Ask them informally if they would like to come and if it's all good then send them an invitation and ask them to reply back to you when they recieve the invitation. Don't bother with the RSVP cards since it is after that date and you will need a reply sooner.

I like Mrs Drakthal's idea. Call them and pretend that were originally on the list and that their invitation must have been lost in the mail and that you'll send one out right away

My cousin did that for someone she forgot to invite and it totally worked!

Great OP! Yea, shit happens, we don't always plan perfectly and people understand. I wouldn't care if I got a late invite…I'm not that much of a prude!

For my family and friends...they dont care if they were b-listed...my mom really wanted to invite some of her friends to my wedding...but i didnt have room. however, I got most of our rsvp back and 10 people declined...so i let my mom invite her friends...they were really happy.