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Brittny
Super June 2017

Invited then uninvited

Brittny, on August 19, 2016 at 4:44 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 58
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FH and I received a STD from his close friend about 2 months ago and it included 2 seats that we RSVP'd for his wedding. FH just received the invitation to his wedding for sept 10th this week and he decided to ask if I am included. I have the screenshot of the message. FH is a bit hurt by and I'm honestly not surprised from what I know about his friend. He's nice and all but not very responsible. FH does not know what to say to him but knows he would want to go with me of course. Its tacky and I don't want FH to take it too personally but what kind of friend does that? FH even went as far as wanting to uninvite him to our wedding lol I told him lets not go to that level. Just talk to him and we will still invite him and his fiancé. What should FH respond with?

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Latest activity by Donna, on August 20, 2016 at 12:13 AM
  • Brittny
    Super June 2017
    Brittny ·
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    For some reason I couldnt add a photo on the post? But this is the convo


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  • MizzzCara
    Master June 2017
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    Yeah. That's bad. Idk. I personally wouldn't go if I were him.

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  • Mrs. CK
    VIP November 2015
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    You're not a plus one. You're a significant other. And why did they send out STDs then send out invitations 2 months later? And with a RSVP on STDs?

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  • SarahAnn1015
    Super October 2016
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    You aren't a plus 1. you're his fiance. I wouldn't go to the wedding if someone did that and FH couldn't come with me. What a weird invite system they had.... and what did they do? over invite? ugh

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  • DeniseD
    Master May 2015
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    How close of friends are they? Obviously, tacky on their part but is it worth a friendship.

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  • Brittny
    Super June 2017
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    @Mrs. CK the STDs were sent by email called paperless post and it allowed us to rsvp. Yes lol it is very strange the way they were sent

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  • San
    VIP September 2017
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    Ew. Fiance is not a plus one.

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  • MizzzCara
    Master June 2017
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    Honestly if it were me, I would love to reply with 'uhh no. If she's not invited, I'm cool with not going.' That's ridiculous.

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  • Mrs. TacoCat
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    Umm... you just got the invite today for a 9/10/16 wedding?? Today should be the deadline to RSVP - not get the invite. He was b-listed.

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  • Brittny
    Super June 2017
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    @DeniseD FH and this friend were roommates a couple years ago and they were close but ever since he moved out they have not been as close. They talk often though and he seems very encouraging about FH and I getting married so it threw us off a bit.

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  • Brittny
    Super June 2017
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    @TacoCat yeah I'm pretty sure we were b listed....Or he was. I was also wondering why be invited in the first place then? On top of that they included a gift registry card in the wedding invitation!

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  • Mrs. CK
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    Yeah the RSVP with the STD thing makes me think y'all were b-listed.

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  • Mrs. TacoCat
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    Aw hell no!

    Decline that.... Go out to a really nice dinner with the cash you were going to give them.

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  • BeachBride
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    Definitely not cool. As PPs have said, you're not a plus 1.

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  • Karla
    Devoted October 2017
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    Decline the invitation. Simple

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  • MeantToBeAKennedy
    Expert October 2016
    MeantToBeAKennedy ·
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    Similar situation happened to me a couple of years ago - except I was in your FH's spot with my cousin. I immediately told the couple good luck with the wedding, cancelled my hotel room, and did NOT send a gift. So. Rude.

    ETA: And yeah I def think you were B listed.

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  • Brittny
    Super June 2017
    Brittny ·
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    Thanks for the input ladies! I wanted to use this to let FH know that it is wrong, he seems so confused by it so I'm going to read him these responses from everyone.

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  • Kelli
    Super October 2017
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    That's horrible, you aren't just a random date you're his future wife! Wow why would people do that?

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  • GrumpyCatRebecca
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    That's a bit ridiculous and beyond rude. I would tell your FH to respond with "Of course I won't hate you, but I'm sorry that I won't be attending as I don't attend social functions without my significant other. Best of luck."

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  • Brittny
    Super June 2017
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    @MeantToBeAKennedy You even had a hotel? Wow thats crazy, and yeah I don't think he will be going or sending a gift

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