Invited Guests of Bachelorette Don't Want to Pay Anything

All the bachelorette parties I've been too we paid our way. The bride didn't pay, we divided it all between who came.

Hell no. If they don't want to pay they don't have to go. Why would the BMs have to "host" the whole thing?? No, sorry, don't want to pay your way, stay home.

If they can't/don't want to pay, they should not be allowed to go. I've never heard of people going to a BP and not paying. It is not the responsibility of the BMs to pay for the whole thing. Nope, nope, nope.

ETA: I've never been to a BP where only the BMs paid for the bride's share. If you go, you pitch in. Period.

Ignore the first two responses in this thread. Guests are always responsible for their OWN costs for a bachelorette party.

This is not a hosted event where bridesmaids pay for everyone. It's not the same as a shower. Everyone pays for their own food, drinks, accommodations, and entertainment. If they can't afford to pay for their share of the event, they can decline.

Regarding the bride's costs - typically just the BMs will cover this. I would probably remove it from the breakdown for other guests, but some may offer money for the bride anyway.

For the people who aren't reading properly - these non-BMs don't want to pay for ANYTHING, including their OWN expenses / share of the expenses, not just the bride's costs. That's ridiculous.

The guests should pay their own way regardless of being in the bridal party or not. With that being said, if they are not in the bridal party they are not obligated to pay for the bride.

I guess I didn't read this right at first? Yes, guests need to pay for themselves! I have only been to two bachelorette parties and the limo was covered by the bridesmaids but I paid for my drinks at the bar. We did a bar crawl type thing at one, imagine how expensive that would have been for the bridesmaids if they paid for everyone's drinks!

This is the same as going out to dinner for someone's birthday, but only family members are required to pay for everyone else.

I would never expect a bridesmaid to pay for me (a friend of the bride) for anything.

Just tell them they don't have to come then. I think it's ridiculous that they're expecting BMs to pay for their lodging and stuff when you guys are already paying for the bride. I can understand them not wanting to chip in for the bride's stuff almost because they're not in the wedding party, but why do they think they're special enough to get a free trip paid for them?

That's weird. The only person not paying for anything at a bachelorette party is the bride.