Invited guests are already complaining - wedding timeline

Unfortunately, the problems created by Sunday weddings are real for parents. I still don't think they should whine or complain. They can accept or decline when the invitation comes.

Two things- right now, be vague, but honest. "We haven't confirmed a time yet but all information will be on the invitation."

Second: prepare a stock response for complaints. You will see a number of them during wedding planning. "I'm sorry you feel that way." or " Thanks for the suggestion. We'll keep it in mind."

Yes, you're allowed to have your wedding when you want. But you have to realize that people might not want to stay out late on a Sunday. We had an OOT Friday evening wedding because that's what worked for us, but we had about a 50% decline rate because of it. It worked for us though because the 50% that accepted were the people we really wanted there.

You can keep it or change it, up to you. I don't know if starting it just an hour or half hour earlier will make much of a difference in how people feel though. I'd just be prepared to have more declines than typical if the time doesn't work for people.

FH and I opted for a Friday night wedding (the date is the 8th anniversary of the day we met). Often when I told someone the day of the week the wedding would be on during early planning, they would tell me it, "might be difficult for some people to attend that day." But no one - not one person - told me they personally couldn't do it. FH and I finally decided to do what we wanted. Not to be bridezilla, but if it's important enough to them, they'll find a way to be there, and if not, we'll understand that they couldn't get away for some reason. Heck, we might not even notice they aren't there! We have friends flying in from Australia and Greece, one who will recently be back from Thailand, and a few coming from out of state, and none of them have complained for a second about anything wedding related. If it's more important to them to go to bed early than attend your wedding for one night, you probably didn't want them there anyway. They don't get to dictate the details of your special day, period. Save The Dates have already been sent now, and they don't get to complain about a decision you made about your special day. When it's their wedding, they can make all the decisions. Until then, this is up to you. That said, if you want to make the time earlier to accommodate everyone a little better, it might be a nice gesture. We made our wedding later in the evening so people could potentially come after work instead of needing the full day off. But I don't think they should expect you to do that. A 5pm Sunday wedding isn't ridiculous - what's ridiculous is that they think they can pressure you into changing your date after Save The Dates have been sent already and it's already been decided.
...So sorry, I'm in such a sassy mood tonight, I probably shouldn't be on the internet! xD

ETA: Make sure you do keep in mind that some people may still choose not to come, even if you change the time to try to accommodate their wishes. It's really important not to take that personally; sometimes people honestly can't do it for some reason. I don't think it's ridiculous of them to not be able to make it; it's just ridiculous to complain to you like that about it.

My fiancé and I are planning to send out our save the dates this week. We too are having a wedding on a Sunday and I know people are going to complain about it. Some people know about the wedding details already and they are complaining that our wedding is too short (four hours long), it it shouldn't be 21+ because they want their kids to attend (the venue is not kid friendly plus we wanted to trim the guest list), and that it's too far away (out of state but only 45-60 minutes away from where fiancé and where I live).

Unfortunately, you won't be able to please everyone with your decisions. There's always going to be someone complaining. You shouldn't have to adjust your schedule for the sake of your guests. What's important is what you and your fiancé want. Do what makes you both happy. After all, it's your and your fiancé's wedding. It's not your guests' wedding. If they truly want to be there, they will make it work.

Then definitely keep it.

I understand. We invited all aunts/uncles/cousins in interest of fairness, but I was perfectly happy with our higher-than-average decline rate.