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dancefrog1
Dedicated February 2010

Invite your BOSSES to your wedding?

dancefrog1, on August 20, 2009 at 4:17 PM Posted in Planning 0 26

So I'm close to my mgrs..well not TOO close and FH is having a fit about me wanting to invite my mgrs to our wedding (which they are super cool and fun to party with) so I have them on our B list right now. Is anyone else inviting their mgrs? Thoughts?

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Latest activity by dancefrog1, on August 23, 2009 at 2:44 PM
  • Kari95630
    Expert October 2009
    Kari95630 ·
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    Nope, I skipped all coworkers/bosses all together. We were looking to cut down the guest list, so we didn't invite people from work.

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  • Karen Guyt
    Karen Guyt ·
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    It does open the door to everyone from your work expecting or assuming an invitation. Plus there's that whole awkward thing where the drunk boss is hitting on women in front of his wife - don't laugh, this really happened at a wedding I designed/coordinated!

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  • Konichiwa
    Master January 2010
    Konichiwa ·
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    It's best if it's all or nothing as far as co-workers go. I wanted to invite some people from work but because we don't have it in the budget to invite everyone, we opted to not invite any of them. It saves hard feelings. Although if you don't have the budget constraints then I really don't see a problem inviting your managers. I think it would be totally up to your managers if they thought it violated some sort of supervisor/employee rule they follow.

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  • May2010Bride
    Super May 2010
    May2010Bride ·
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    I work as an office associate for a retail chain. I deal with ALL the associates (due to payroll and such) and I work close with the managers. I DO plan on inviting all my managers (12) and a guest for each. I have a few other associates whom I am close with, but am only going to restrict myself to JUST the managers for two reasons 1- I can't have all 100 associates invited and I don't want to hurt anyones feelings by who gets invited from the sales floor and who does not and 2- I want my managers to feel comfortable at the wedding since I will be having alcohol and not have to "be on their best behavior b/c associates are there". If you get what I mean.....we never really have events outside of the store and I don't want a manager to have a little too much to drink and they have to deal with it when they get back to work from associates. To me....I spend 40 hours a week at work....so my managers are my extended family, why would I NOT want them there to share in my special day.

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  • Thistle
    Dedicated October 2009
    Thistle ·
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    I only invited coworkers that I hang out with outside of work. Love my supervisor and her husband who also works with me, but I did not invite them because as others pointed out, it opens the door for having to invite so many more coworkers.

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  • FMS, the barefoot wife!
    Master August 2010
    FMS, the barefoot wife! ·
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    My FH thought he should invite EVERYON he EVER worked with, and people from my last job are making sure that they here for the wedding, So, we decided to invite them only to the social, NOBODY from work is invited to the ceremony and reception

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  • FMS, the barefoot wife!
    Master August 2010
    FMS, the barefoot wife! ·
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    We cut down the guest list and hurt feelings.

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  • Jessy
    Master May 2010
    Jessy ·
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    I've decided that the only people from work that I am inviting are my immediate co-workers (the other preschool teachers in my school) and the people I spend time with outside of work. Fortunately, I think the rest of my co-workers will understand. They are very likely to put together some sort of celebration at work as a means of participating.

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  • C
    Master October 2009
    CelticChick831 ·
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    Well, I invited my Boss who is the owner of the company and my only co-worker. So that wasnt hard. She will be bringing her husband and son. My FH has more people from his work coming but thats because he works with 2 of my uncles, a designated uncle (been around my whole life) whos daughter is one of my flower girls, a close friend of ours who my FH got a job where he works and two other co-workers of no relation, just friends. We kinda had to schedule our wedding around the Saturday work schedule to make sure everyone would be able to make it. LOL

    outside of out unique circumstance, I say only invite those co-workers; including bosses, that you hang out with every once in a while after hours.

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  • Mrs. Rullan
    Dedicated September 2009
    Mrs. Rullan ·
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    Well I work in a smaill office and I am close to all the girls so I invited them. My boss is the Sr. VP of the hospital and since I'm his assistant I extended an invitation. He accepted. I've been to other parties with him and his wife and I always have had lots of fun. I guess it depends on your relationship with your boss and their spouse. Good Luch with your decision.

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  • Crystal
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    Crystal ·
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    I work in a bank with 5 other people in my office. I am pretty close to them at work but dont talk to any of them other than my manager out side of work. I plan to invite her and one other manager, just because if I invite one the other will get upset. I am the supervisor to the other 3 employees and have decided its not as important to invite them. I told them that its just not in my budget. They all understood.

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  • S
    Super September 2010
    SCheecks ·
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    I agree with inviting people you are close to, but it is your day. If you and your FH decided on a number of quests and you don't exceed that amount I think you should be able to invite who you want.

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  • claudia
    Dedicated August 2009
    claudia ·
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    I invited people from my department only, and I did end up inviting my 2 bosses. They are both semi-new, so I thought it would be fun to hang out with them outside of work. It's weird though, how everyone from your work just expects an invite. Someone new asks me everyday if they are invited. I'm not made of money, people!

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  • Mrs Knight
    Super September 2009
    Mrs Knight ·
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    I invited my old bosses. We all have a unique relationship I mean one of them spent Thanksgiving with my family because he is from Alaska and didn't have anyone here. I have seen all of them drunk and one of them high so it wont be a big deal if they get drunk. (I hope my venue gets extra Patrone) In other words our relationships with each other is a walking HR nightmare but none of us are the go to HR types lol

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  • Jennifer
    Expert September 2009
    Jennifer ·
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    I work in a doctor's office and I wouldn't have been able to invite just a few people. Since we're on a tight budget, we opted to not invite anyone from the office. It would have doubled the size of my wedding. Sorry - can't afford it!!

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  • shalliwell
    VIP October 2009
    shalliwell ·
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    Well if you want to invite them then i would. i invited a select few from my work, the three ladies i am closest with, but i di not invite my boss....well i dont like her at all so that doesnt helkp but even if i did i dont know that iwould just cause of maybe some drinks and whatever...shes pretty straight laced

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  • Mrs. Katie Rinker
    Expert October 2009
    Mrs. Katie Rinker ·
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    My FH only invited 2 guys he works with in his dept. & their wives but we hang out with them a lot socially..Smiley smile hope this helps!!

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  • Angel
    Dedicated May 2010
    Angel ·
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    I am inviting only the other teachers I work closely with on a regularly basis, my assistant, & the office staff (principal, assist principal, secretary, etc.) There is simply no way I can invite the entire school staff. I'm sure I'll get the questions of why I didn't invite someone afterwards. Unfortunately the guest list has to end somewhere :0)I think you should invite whoever you want from work. Besides, it is "your" big day.

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    Devoted February 2010
    Michelle ·
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    I'm inviting my current boss and co-worker. I'm also inviting 4 people that I use to work with and still socialize with.

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  • Jessica
    Expert September 2009
    Jessica ·
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    Even though I work with a very large company, I am lucky enough to be in a "small" group of 24 people. So, I am inviting all of them, boss included. Luckily, even though I do talk to other people throughout the company, I was able to say it was just my immediate group invited. And that was not a surprise to anyone. If I went outside the group then that would have opened it up for way too many people. Plus you have to realize, not all people will come to the wedding. since mine is over a holiday weekend, only about half of the group is coming with their spouses. So that is also something to consider.

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