Invite Wording, Parents, Step-dad, what to do?!

"with their parents" "with their families" will really upset the families????

Mr. Stepdad & Mrs. Mom Smith

along with Mr. Dad Jones

and Mr. Inlaw & Mrs. Inlaw Johnson

invite you to share in the joy of the marriage

uniting their children

Rachel Ann

and

Thomas Christopher

on Saturday, the twelfth of July

two thousand eighteen

at eleven o'clock in the morning

Green Grove, Marcy Park

Lakeview Road

Santa Barbara, California

Honestly, I'd still recommend saying "Together with their families." My mom tried to get upset about not being named on the invite and I had to put my foot down. Just tell them that the invitation style you chose doesn't have space for everyone's names.

We're doing "together with their families" as well. Wre really paying for the bulk of our wedding but I think its a nice way to honor everyone without having to list name by name.

Thanks everyone. My fiance is really bent on having his parents named and is not fond of my father, so I'll have to work on this one. :/

We used "together with their parents" for a couple reasons. We all paid, though H and I spent the most. We're 31 and didn't want to be referred to as children (seems silly now, but it really bugged us). And we didn't want to offend anyone - H's father is deceased and his mom recently divorced his stepdad. It was a bitter divorce and H felt weird including his ex-stepfather's name and not including it, so we didn't list any names. Plus he didn't want to leave out his deceased father.

Are you sure your family would be upset with this? My MIL seemed a little hurt, but she quickly got over it.

So my father now again reminded me that he's not attending if he's not walking me down the aisle (and he's not). Am I fussing over invite wording for nothing, being that he's already made up his mind not to come? Why are weddings so political?

We are definitely including some mention of parents whether it be just "with their parents" or actual names. We just don't want to include his name specifically. We're debating on

"Miss Bride and Mr. Groom,

together with their parents,

Drs. So and So &

Mr. and Mrs. Stepdad and Mom,

invite you to celebrate..." or just:

"Miss Bride and Mr. Groom,

together with their parents,

invite you to celebrate..."

Either one should be fine. If he's not planning to come anyway, I wouldn't worry too much about whether he'll be offended by the phrasing of the invitations.

Examples

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Mr. Stepdad & Mrs. Mom Smith

and

Mr. Dad & Mrs. Mom Inlaw

invite you to share in the joy of the marriage

uniting their children

Rachel Ann

and

Thomas Christopher

on Saturday, the twelfth of July

two thousand eighteen

at eleven o'clock in the morning

Green Grove, Marcy Park

Lakeview Road

Santa Barbara, California

or

Because you have shared in

our lives by your friendship and love, we

Karrie Ester Bryant

and

Matthew Edward Mergesen

together with our parents

invite you to share

the beginning of our new life together

when we exchange marriage vows

on Saturday, the twelfth of July

two thousand eighteen

at eleven o'clock in the morning

Green Grove, Marcy Park

Lakeview Road

Santa Barbara, California

Those all sound fine. We used:

Together with their parents

Bride and Groom

Request the pleasure of your

company as they unite in marriage