Invitations/ Adult Affair

Please join us for our adult only reception.

We are going to have something like that.

Just don't include the children on the invitations and/or put ___ of 2 attending

if anyone asks, or tries to include their kids on their response card, say no.

you are right that you shouldn't put anything on the invitation like "Adults Only" but you can put it on your website if you have one

On ours we put something along the lines of "We hope you understand that due to the limited capacity of the venue we are unable to invite children over the age of 2 other than close family of the bride and groom."

Please don't write anything on your invitations, or in inserts or anything. Just address the invitations to the adults you're inviting, let it spread by word of mouth that you're not inviting kids, and when people do RSVP with their kids, call them and explain.

We included language on our website that said, "While children are a joy and a blessing, we are unable to accommodate them at our wedding." Then spread the word through friends and family as quickly as possible.

What Kate and Stephanie said. Invitation, no. Website, sure.

We just used "Adult reception to follow" on the bottom of our invites.

I'm always hesitant about the phrase "adult reception." It makes me think of "adult club" or "adult movie." So, like, titties EVERYWHERE.

Wether you put something or not people are sometimes inconsiderate, at my first wedding my Uncle and his wife brought their 3 kids with no RSVP or mention that this is what they were doing.

I agree word of mouth is best but do not mention it on the invite or as an insert.

Good luck!

@Piecesofadream -- neither. just write the adults name on the invitation

I'm glad someone posted this, I am having the same issue.

I currently have two versions of invites. One that says Adult Reception. and one that says " We invite all adult guests to celebrate with us following the ceremony "

Not sure which one to use?????????????????????????

"this reception will be held in the evening where there will be a cocktail hour and open bar throughout the evening...I do not believe in children being in that type of atmosphere."

just want to say I found that pretty funny because my whole childhood was surrounded by drinking/drunk adults. :-D

I know some don't like it but I had NO problem putting "Adult reception to follow"

Thanks for ALL the responses. God bless the children.

Its the biggest pet peeve I have ever had. I just do not like to see children at a wedding taking over the dance floor ect.

And honestly, with 200 guest..I cant feed the children steak dinner that they will mess over, LOL

I have to include on invite some kinda way....word of mouth alone is not gonna cut it. If RSVP comes back with children, I will take the advice and will have to politely contact guest to apologize.

I'm hoping everyone will respect our wishes and not have to be disappointed at the door. :-)

@piecesofadream uhhhh neither.

@Lea..that better not happen at this reception lol

@Kate Thank you , I will include on our website "Adult Affair"

We wrote Adult Reception on the reply card at the bottom and it did prompt 2 calls from people with infants who asked if they could still bring their INFANTS. it's a 7pm reception so NO. Its ok to write Adult Reception.

@Katherine not even on the website?! It has to be re-iterated somewhere. Word of month is just not enough for some folks.

@Piecesofadream I would go with the "We invite all adult guests…" version - Adult Reception to me, like Shannon, makes me think of some kind of X-rated swingers event.

I would (and did) totally put something on the invitation. I think it's perfectly acceptable, and the point of the invitation is to let people know who is invited and the important information - why rely on word of mouth which could miss a lot of people out or on having to individually tell every parent that little Sally can't come after all, by which point they may have told her all about it and got her excited and bought her a dress? To me it seems obvious that it should be on the invitation, although I accept maybe this is done a little differently in the UK than in the US.

It seems like such a waste of time and energy to say " call them and tell them no kids ".

Really??? Why not just take care of it upfront.

I disagree with that method. But if you have the time to have those conversations go for it. I won't be doing it.