Invitation with number attending already filled in

Even though apparently a lot of people on WW have the number attending already filled in, i have never actually received an invitation where they have done that. normally you just write the name(s) of who is attending on the RSVP card.

If you're single and they decided across the board not to give plus ones then I think that's the most direct way to let you know without telling you in person. That's pretty standard advice on this forum. If you decide not to attend then that's ok, an invitation is not a summons and you are not required to attend.

If you're not in a relationship, you don't have a right to bring a guest.

That being said, you should've been invited to BOTH showers, just one. That's tacky.

They also shouldn't have filled in the number of people attending, just put that there is one seat reserved in your honor.

The couple has a strict limit on the number. Don't go if you don't want to, but it's pretty normal and understandable

They don't have to give you a plus one.

I agree with OG Alecia. I will be doing the _/2 attending because at my sisters wedding different guests brought multiple people with them. It wasn't such a huge problem with hers because it was catered by family but mine is a sit down dinner so the numbers need to be correct. I think that's a polite way to tell exactly who is invited.

I didn't have the number filled in. I have all single guest the chance to bring a date. I think they should have the chance to have someone to dance with and have fun

Maybe the couple has guest count limit? We didnt give plus ones because of this, but our crowd already knew this.

I think pre-filling out the "number attending" is kind of tactless, a better way would have been to write "One seat has been reserved in your honor" Anyway, plus ones are not a required invitation extension to single guests.

That's very standard. I filled in how many seats were reserved for my guests. It's my decision how many people are invited. Not theirs.

@Marianne- For our single guests we reserved 2 spots. It was still filled in but they could bring a guest if they want.

Like everyone else has said, it's the standard way of letting you know, you're not given a plus one.

Being invited to pre-wedding festivities (assuming) bringing gifts to said festivities doesn't warrant a plus one.

My RSVP cards say "We have reserved ___ seats in your honor." I filled out how many seats, because that lets you know if you can bring plus 1s, children, etc (as others have mentioned). Pretty standard stuff. I mean, I agree that it sucks you didn't get a plus 1 - I gave EVERYONE a plus one.

ETA: I committed an egregious act and need to remove it so as not to destroy anyone's life.

Wait I'm confused.

My RSVPS are what I attached. I will be filling out the line in "We have reserved ___ seat(s) in your honor" and also the second line in the "___ out of ___ attending"

So if I have invited you and your SO, it would look like:

"We have reserved 2 seat(s) in your honor"

"___ out of 2 attending"

This ensures that people are not adding on guests I did not invite and also is a way for the guest to tell me whether or not both their seats will be used in the case their SO couldn't come. The guest could put "1 out of 2 attending" in that case and I'll know to only expect one person instead of two.

OP said that her "number attending" was already filled out though, which would be the first line from "___ out of ___ attending" on mine, which would imply she's going to the wedding even though she hadn't even responded yet.

If you cannot attend the wedding, just select "cannot attend" on the RSVP.

Totally normal. A wedding isn't date night.

Well I mean if guests learned proper guest etiquette and didn't WRITE IN uninvited plus ones or their uninvited children on to our RSVP's, we wouldn't have to come up with solutions like this in an attempt to get it through their brains.

Pretty sure OP's invite should have 2 spots, seeing as she is getting married in July she's not a single guest...

@Kara that's probably the date of the wedding she's attending.

To those doing the "# of seats reserved in your honor" thing. Keep in mind that the person might bring someone you didn't invite. I saw this on another thread where 2 people were invited by name, and then the 2 seats thing. One of the invited people RSVP'd with a completely different person to accompany them. Not saying you should or shouldn't do it this way, just pointing out what could happen. Seems no matter what you do, there can be RSVP issues.

Sorry OP - sounds like you didn't get a plus one.

@WED1819 - This doesn't bother me. While I am addressing all envelopes to the people invited and still doing the pre-filled out seat thing, realistically I am still prepared for their two seats. If one of the addressed people cannot come and they bring someone else in their place, whatever.

It's this shit that pisses me off. Like no, that's not how this works. That's not how any of this works.

No @Beth, these brides are NOT being controlling.

Most of us want to invite as many special people as we can, but we all have budgets and EVERY SINGLE PERSON who comes costs money to feed and give alcohol, sometimes as much as $300 per person. Not to mention, there are usually Fire Marshall codes that state the maximum number of people who are allowed in the venue.

Therefore, the way to ensure that you have more of the important people who you REALLY want there, is to only give Plus One's to those in a serious relationship and, in some cases, not allowing children.

When you are planning your own wedding, you will definitely get this, and will want to tear your own hair out, and you will feel horrible about having to be strict with the guest list, as much as you wish you could invite every single person you know.

However, that is reality and having a real budget, unfortunately.