Hi! First post here, but I have an issue.
My fiance accompanied me to a huge family crawfish boil Saturday for my 3 graduating cousins. He's white, I'm black. This hasn't been an issue, he's met my family before. Everything was fine, until it wasn't. We had been there for about 3 hours and the DJ started announcing the grads. He then said he was from the same city I live in and graduated from the same high school I did. My fiance mentioned that I must know him, but dude is 10 years older than me, so I don't. He then said out loud "DJ Black and your sister must have had something going on", a joke. My sister had been playing with my son and hadn't heard that it was in fact the DJ's name, she thought my white fiance was calling the DJ by his race. She said "uh uh. You can't say things like that. I stopped her and pointed out that that was his actual name, to which she replied "Oh, well he needs to be mindful of what he says in the past, present, and future". I was shocked and my fiance took that to mean she was calling him racist. He tried to talk to her, she didn't wanna talk, she actually lied to me and said that people at the party had told her that he was making racist comments, just to cover her a**. She left, my fiance was also ready to go.
So, now he doesn't want her invited to the wedding and I'm stuck in the middle. My step-dad and mother aren't coming, for other reasons, so I was only gonna have my siblings and biological father already, but now if I uninvite one sister, the other won't wanna come. The wedding isn't until 5/20/22, so we have almost a year to get over this and get it straightened out, but should I bother trying to get them to talk this out? Or just leave it alone and never have them in the same room again?
I'll give more details if needed, but this is already long enough.
