Infants at ceremony

This. Exactly. This is family and you're essentially telling them you aren't welcome at the most important part of your wedding because they dared to have a child. I understand that may not be your intent but if this were me I would go by your wishes but it would absolutely change our relationship moving forward and not in a positive way.

Babies sleep a lot. If the baby cries, I'm 1000% sure the parent will remove themselves from the ceremony. No one is going to sit there while their infant cries loud enough to disrupt a ceremony for the entire amount of time it takes for a bridal party to walk up and down an aisle.

Imagine this situation is reversed and how you might feel and call your brothers and tell them everyone is welcome.

Weddings are really stressful times. We act strange, people around us act strange, but at the end of the day we will still have these relationships. This will not be as big of a deal as it may feel like right now. Be kind and loving to your family.

I don't think the issue is people not reading your post. I know it's stressful planning a wedding and wanting everything to be perfect but the reality is that everything won't be and your wedding is one single day out of your life with your husband and all of these people invited.

A lot of things bothered me while I was planning our wedding. Some things happened day of that I had no control over. In retrospect, looking back on the day, I'm glad I overreacted to myself and a few select loved ones and NOT to those guests. So many issues that seemed huge while planning were so small and not a big deal at all. When this day is over, it's over. And what was normal before becomes normal again. You don't want to damage relationships with people you care about because there is a risk that two infants may audibly cry during your ceremony. This will simply not be as big of a deal as you're feeling like it is right now.

If you don't want crying babies there then don't have them. Personally I wouldn't take my baby to a wedding......BUT THAT'S JUST ME!!!!! I do not want any screaming kids at my wedding, I dont even want them in my house. I would find out how my SIL feels about not attending the ceremony. Most people dont really care for the ceremony lol

OP: What do you think about this? Is it rude? Should I not do it?

99.95% of WW: YES, it's rude. Your family will hate you.

OP: Y'all are mean and I don't care! IT"S MY DAY!!!

I mean, why ask a question if you don't want to hear the answer?

Ok, nobody wants a crying baby during their ceremony. End of discussion. I'd reach out to your church and ask if anyone would be willing to watch the babies during the ceremony. (Invite that person to the reception!)

I would be ticked, esp as a VIP family member. You need to let this go. These are very very young children, and they need a parent. I doubt I would let my kid be babysat at that age if I could avoid it. I am having and adult only wedding, but trust this wouldn't even ping my radar as they are newborns not toddlers running into things and poking the cake. Rethink this.

You are not ENTITLED to bring your child to someone else's wedding. If you don't want exceptions--don't make them. Like another poster said--I would not be offended and think it's an incredibly presumptuous and selfish attitude to expect that the bride be okay with you bringing your baby. And yes--newborns cry. They are not angels. And some people are crappy parents and will let them cry it out. That said, if you have their other children attending the wedding and they belong to either one of your sister's in laws, you kind of have to let them bring the baby.

Nursing infants are generally the exception to "no kids" at weddings rules. I don't like kids or the noise that comes with them, but in the case of a VIP guest with a nursing infant, the best thing to do is suck it up and hope they sleep through it. (which at that age is pretty likely anyways.)

Not necessary to make an exception for a nursing infant