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Mrs. Spring
Master April 2021

Independent couples out there?!

Mrs. Spring, on December 11, 2020 at 11:23 AM Posted in Planning 1 89
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According to statistics, Parents of the bride and groom collectively contribute about $19,000 to the wedding, or about two-thirds of the total cost.


The bride's parents give an average $12,000, and the groom's, $7,000.
Just 1 in 10 couples pays for the wedding entirely on their own, according to TheKnot.com!!!!!
I feel like my FH and I are the only couple that I know who are paying for everything entirely on our own.
Any other couples out there doing it?!

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Latest activity by Mrs. Spring, on January 3, 2021 at 7:00 PM
  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    My fiance and I are also covering the cost of our entire wedding ourselves.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    Okay cool. I guess both of us are pretty rare :-)
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  • Jamie
    Dedicated July 2021
    Jamie ·
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    We are also paying ourselves
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  • Dallas
    Devoted November 2020
    Dallas ·
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    We paid for our wedding on our own. We also kept it all under $5,000 total.
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  • Aurora
    Savvy December 2021
    Aurora ·
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    We are paying ourselves as well! We opted for a long engagement to save for our dream wedding so we are paying cash for everything
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  • Lisa
    Super October 2021
    Lisa ·
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    My fiancé and I are paying for the entire wedding and honeymoon ourselves.

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  • J
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    We paid for the whole Wedding, $15,000 budget. But our families brought their kids. A "destination " wedding in the catskills so everyone could drive between our families, not 6-8 hour drive or fly for about 70 of the people no matter whose house.
    We did not have kids under 15 at the wedding. So we planned a cookout for any friends of family who stayed. 170 adults and 167 under 15 plus 15 tiny babies. We had budgeted $4000, and no honeymoon. But several of FI family are provisioners, or wine business, any my family brought caribou and
    bought bread and rolls. So in the end we used leftover alcohol and beverages we already bought for the weather. but a couple nice wines , his family, a keg keg mine. The families really paid most of the cookout in donations. We only paid about $500. And my parents and his paid rooms at the Inn for any with little babies, near their grandparents etc. We had no rehearsal dinner. So we did wedding, I treated my ladies and he his guys to bachelorette weekend. And parents paid rooms for family who could not come, and the second day cookout. Oh, and we did a night before wedding meal for those already there Fri night. I only know a few people whose parents paid for their whole weddings, in a lifetime. All rich, or else kids had home weddings. Everyone else pays themselves, with single items like a dress, or liquor, from parents.
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  • Jasmine
    Rockstar August 2021
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    My brother's father helped us with flowers and my mom took it upon herself to gift us a honeymoon. Other than that, we're paying everything else ourselves.

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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    Oh nice! Good for you. Many of our vendors wont accept cash so we are paying on our debt cards, but still no debt. Yayy
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    Good for you. Best wishes on your new marriage
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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    My partner and I paid for our own wedding.

    Maybe this is regional, but I know way more than 1 in 10 couples who paid for their own weddings (I realize anecdote does not equal data). I wonder if The Knot's survey results look like that because their respondents are self selected for people who had big, "traditional" weddings, which tend to have more parental involvement than my own wedding and the weddings of many people I know. Interesting stuff, for sure.

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  • Cornell
    Savvy July 2022
    Cornell ·
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    We are in the same boat! It's a little stressful but I think we will be happy that we did it all on our own! Best of luck!

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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    We are paying for the majority of our wedding ourselves. We didn’t ask our parents to contribute in any way, but my mother had an issue with the original (free) officiant I wanted for our ceremony. I appeased her by getting a different one (which will cost $400), so she did offer to pay that expense. She also really wanted to purchase my wedding dress for me.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    I'm not sure. Maybe it's because ppl are telling you that they paid for the entire wedding when perhaps someone gifted them something minor such as a tie or one bouquet.
    I do think you make a valid point, I bet courthouse weddings and other non traditionals may have not been included in this statistic.
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  • Erin
    Expert May 2021
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    We are planning on paying for our wedding ALL on our own... budgeting at $5,000 total.

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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    Right! No taking orders or suggestions from others since they are not paying. Lol
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  • Cornell
    Savvy July 2022
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    Right no suggestions needed unless asked for lol!

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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    Ok that was nice of her. No way could I let my parents pay for my dress, they would choose something I don't like. Lol
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    Nice! Good for you. Much luck to you.
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    Yes! This is exactly why we have chosen to pay for things ourselves – didn’t want to take the risk of money coming with strings!
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