According to statistics, Parents of the bride and groom collectively contribute about $19,000 to the wedding, or about two-thirds of the total cost.
The bride's parents give an average $12,000, and the groom's, $7,000. Just 1 in 10 couples pays for the wedding entirely on their own, according to TheKnot.com!!!!! I feel like my FH and I are the only couple that I know who are paying for everything entirely on our own. Any other couples out there doing it?!
We paid for the whole Wedding, $15,000 budget. But our families brought their kids. A "destination " wedding in the catskills so everyone could drive between our families, not 6-8 hour drive or fly for about 70 of the people no matter whose house. We did not have kids under 15 at the wedding. So we planned a cookout for any friends of family who stayed. 170 adults and 167 under 15 plus 15 tiny babies. We had budgeted $4000, and no honeymoon. But several of FI family are provisioners, or wine business, any my family brought caribou and bought bread and rolls. So in the end we used leftover alcohol and beverages we already bought for the weather. but a couple nice wines , his family, a keg keg mine. The families really paid most of the cookout in donations. We only paid about $500. And my parents and his paid rooms at the Inn for any with little babies, near their grandparents etc. We had no rehearsal dinner. So we did wedding, I treated my ladies and he his guys to bachelorette weekend. And parents paid rooms for family who could not come, and the second day cookout. Oh, and we did a night before wedding meal for those already there Fri night. I only know a few people whose parents paid for their whole weddings, in a lifetime. All rich, or else kids had home weddings. Everyone else pays themselves, with single items like a dress, or liquor, from parents.
Maybe this is regional, but I know way more than 1 in 10 couples who paid for their own weddings (I realize anecdote does not equal data). I wonder if The Knot's survey results look like that because their respondents are self selected for people who had big, "traditional" weddings, which tend to have more parental involvement than my own wedding and the weddings of many people I know. Interesting stuff, for sure.
We are in the same boat! It's a little stressful but I think we will be happy that we did it all on our own! Best of luck!
We are paying for the majority of our wedding ourselves. We didn’t ask our parents to contribute in any way, but my mother had an issue with the original (free) officiant I wanted for our ceremony. I appeased her by getting a different one (which will cost $400), so she did offer to pay that expense. She also really wanted to purchase my wedding dress for me.
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I'm not sure. Maybe it's because ppl are telling you that they paid for the entire wedding when perhaps someone gifted them something minor such as a tie or one bouquet. I do think you make a valid point, I bet courthouse weddings and other non traditionals may have not been included in this statistic.