My fiance only has one sibling, and she has 4 kids: two daughters (11 and 1), and two sons (9 and 8). The kids weren't around when their other uncle got married, so this would be their only chance to participate in a wedding and we would really like to include them somehow.
I'm not a fan of flower girls, ring bearers, or those cutesy signs ("last chance to run!" "Here comes the bride" etc.) though. We also aren't having a very formal ceremony, so no programs, ushers, etc. Is there anything else 8, 9, and 11 year olds can do during a wedding ceremony to feel included?