In-law Reaction to Engagement?

My future in-laws were super excited. They started telling everybody we got engaged. They even threw us a small little engagement party with our family. They aren't really involved. I invited my future mother-in-law to my dress fitting. That's about it so far, they haven't had any say.

My FMIL literally hasn't even acknowledged our engagement or wedding plans.

Oh wow, that is really good to hear!! I am so happy for you guys

They were sooooo excited!! They aren’t really openly emotional people but they were sooo happy that day and helped with the hiding of my ring and getting me out the house to the restaurant FH proposed at. They aren’t really helping with any of the planning but they can’t stop asking questions about it or saying your wedding is next. Will also include them in dress fittings and probably the catering aspect as well. Bringing two cultures together so I want their input.

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Tell me about it, I am in the same boat. My future mother in law seems really distant... (although I am not surprised). She doesn't ask my fiance anything about our wedding. About the guest list, venue, has not liked any Facebook posts, starts coming around less... she didn't even take our engagement seriously because we didn't get engagement rings. She was more concerned about the rings than anything else. Even though her son and I have been together for 6 years and have two beautiful daughters together.

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Aww!!! That is so good. I hear what you're saying. SO CUTE!! It's always good to have your fiance's side of the family as ecstatic as you guys feel.

Mine don't really seem very excited either. My parents were so into it, well my mom, I think my dad is a little scared about letting his only daughter go. I try involving them but it's always something. I know they love me but it's kind of disappointing to see them not be so excited. But I will also say that's kind of just how they are with everything.

I have a different situation with my in-laws. My mother in law has had a tumor removed from her brain and has memory loss and gets easily confused. Every time I have seen her since we got married she says noone told me you guys got married, she slaps my husband, then she gets all excited tells me how beautiful my ring is and gives me a big hug. This has happened at least 6 times. So I guess she's excited.

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Yeah I am totally hearing what you're saying, and I'm sorry you're dealing with the same thing too... it is disappointing because you're about to marry their son and be a permanent part of their lives. You'd think the future in-laws would be more involved... not even necessarily financially but emotionally.... unfortunately this is not always the case. Let's keep our heads up! Or at least try...

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I'm sorry to hear that. It's definitely disappointing, but I just try not to think about it. At the end of the whole thing, we will be married and happy. I attempt to include her in things, but it's ultimately up to her how involved she wants to be.

Being that FH and I have been together for 15 years, and we have 4 kids.. ALL my inlaw's and my own family have the "about time!" Reaction! 😂 and I get calls from them once a week asking for updates. If they were in the same state they would probably be VERY involved.

I think they are happy. They are not the type to help plan a wedding.

So excited! They live in Washington so cant help much but they are paying for our rehearsal dinner (their idea to have one😊)

FFIL: “oh, great, congratulations......... have you told mom yet.......?” (In a very flat tone lol)
FMIL: ignores message for 2 months, then goes into a fiery rage about how she will never approve and how he shouldn’t “waste himself on one woman”

Fun stuff 😅

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WOW FMIL's reaction is so disgusting... waste himself on one woman??? UGHH!! That's so bad... my fmil used to be this way... .. used to harass the hell out of me when I was pregnant with our first daughter... the things she was doing.. I cannot repeat on this website.. she died down a lot, but I have a fear in the back of mind with all this wedding planning, she's getting scared and going to start being possessive again...

View Quoted Comment Oh yeah you think that’s awful, she’s said way worse than that too, I’m keeping it PG for this site 😂

Im so sorry you’re dealing with that, ugh! I really don’t understand how in laws can be so terrible sometimes. I could never imagine being anything but kind to an SO of my child, even if I didn’t like the SO, if they make my kid happy that’s all that should matter

They knew that my FH was going to propose They are nothing but supportive and we are very blessed.

My fiancé’s family is pretty neutral in my opinion (but then again I don’t think anyone can top as excited our mutual friends got when we told them) they pretty much said congrats, gave a hug, then divided costs of the catering like they planned a dinner for next week (Not that I’m complaining just wasn’t what I expected I just figured since he has a big family this isn’t their first rodeo)

Mine were really supportive and happy that we finally decided to 'tie the knot' which was a huge relief on me because as we are a fairly young couple I had a fear they would laugh in our face and tell us it was a stupid idea but it was the exact opposite, they were so so happy!

My mom was very happy- she loves my FH. My FMIL was so excited and told FH, “it’s about time!” We had only been dating a year and a half, so I thought that was very sweet. My FFIL keeps counting down the days and said, “we are all so happy for this wedding!” I am so fortunate to have such great in laws. I try to keep everyone involved in the planning, and no one is too heavy handed, which I also greatly appreciate!