I’m demoting my moh

View Quoted Comment Has she checked to make sure the girl was ok. What you say hoes both ways. Your friend is suddenly not calling you back or texting. And your biggest worry is a party??

I will say her not responding to messages or calls is a bad indication. And while moh does not make decisions we all would like a sounding board or that friend to be just that a friend. I would think she isn't just calling her about wedding stuff. She seems like a flaky friend on the whole. Every wedding I've been in a moh has more duties and is there for their bride at the very least to talk to. I don't know how to phrase it but I would say denoting her now opposed to when it is super close to the wedding and throws anything off is better

I'm with everyone else. Being a MOH isn't a job and until wedding day she isn't required to do anything but buy a dress.

View Quoted Comment I tried not to assume that she is only texting her about wedding related things, but that she is texting to say hi and check in as a friend. However, from the initial post Shelby wrote it seems like the friend has always been a flake and Shelby stated that the friend only comes around during convenient times... by that statement alone, I’m honestly not sure why she would have made her the MOH in the first place but 🤷🏽‍♀️ She thought making her the MOH would help the friendship and it doesn’t seem like it is.. so I believe in dropping it. I haven’t lost one friend that I would want back. People outgrow each other and that’s perfectly okay. IMO it should be less about the wedding and more about the friendship.

Unless you want the friendship to end, keep her. I had someone drop out of my first wedding as she decided to move that Saturday night. (I was engaged for a year) and it bothered me so much I never called her back. She left the message on my answering machine. Hey, it was the 90's!!