If you postpone, are you still going to courthouse on original date?

This is SUCH a hard choice to make and of course, everybody’s circumstances and priorities are different, but I’ll share what I am doing:

My fiancé and I also rescheduled and our wedding date was supposed to be this week (💔), but we decided to NOT do the courthouse ceremony. When I sat down and weighed all the pros and cons and possibilities, I knew that i would have regretted getting married at the courthouse. For me, having the bridal shower, bachelorette, getting officially married at a ceremony in front of all of our family and friends, celebrating all together, and having an amazing honeymoon is what I really wanted. And to be honest, I don’t think those things would be the same if we did it all once we were already technically married (but thats just my opinion/based on knowing myself lol). And although it ABSOLUTELY sucks waiting when we were so close, I didn’t want to settle on a ceremony I knew I didn’t want. In the end, we decided that having our dream wedding was more important than keeping our originally planned date. We will be honoring our previously planned wedding date this upcoming week by having cake for dinner, drinking lots of wine, and celebrating the fact that we have each other, made it through quarantine together, and have an AMAZING wedding to look forward to in less than a year! 😊

Whatever you choose to do, I would definitely recommend making a list of what is most important to you and your fiancé, and to base your decision off of that list (and don't settle for something you know you don't want!).

I'm struggling with the same thing! We haven't officially postponed our July 25th wedding, but we are in the process of selecting a back-up date and getting vendors availability for that. It's so heartbreaking, but after weighing the pros and cons we just aren't sure we can have the wedding we want on our original date. I am not sure either that we want to get officially married on our original date. It seems weird but I feels like it is just another thing I would have to plan in addition to getting the wedding moved to the new date. I'm also self-conscious and feel like people will think the "vow renewal" isn't as special as going to the wedding. I do love seeing people's mini celebrations though. I think mostly though, I don't want to think about postponing my wedding AND planning something smaller at the same time. It is too overwhelming.

My wedding was supposed to be this past Saturday but we postponed to May 15, 2021. We did choose to get married on our original date and I wouldn't change it for the world. All of our friends and family watched the ceremony over zoom, we laughed, we cried, we toasted to our new beginning, and our photographer took some absolutely stunning photographs. I am SO happy that we chose to go through with the legal ceremony and I truthfully think everything will be just as special next year. These are unprecedented times and I like to think that watching our love prevail in these extremely difficult times was such a positive experience to everyone involved. I know that going forward I will look back on our original ceremony with such warm and positive memories whereas, if we had not gone through with it, it would have always held a memory of grief and sadness. Obviously, this is an extremely personal choice but my husband (ahh!) and I are both so so so happy with the decision we made. Yes, this was not the wedding I always imagined but, in the end, it is the marriage that is important and I am so happy to finally be married! Best of luck!!

Hi Lisa! This is definitely a personal decision, but I don't think there's any wrong choice here! Everyone has slightly different priorities and you just have to do what feels best for you as a couple.

Here are a few other discussions I've seen where brides have shared their thoughts on getting married now and postponing the big reception:

Married this year - “wedding”/marriage celebration next year?

Etiquette in the time of coronavirus?