If you could do it again... One year engagement or 2?

We live together and our engagement will be 11 months total. We both already are very good at saving money and our parents were generous. If it wasn't for our parents, our wedding wouldn't be the level that it is. I think there are a lot of factors but I'm happy its only 11 months.

At my age, even 1 year is too long. LOL! 2 years? Hell-to-the-no! Ours will be 6 months!

I was engaged for 7 months and I would never go over that.

I ditto @evily I'm too old to be waiting that long.

My engagement will be 1.5 years. But during that time we move across the country, got new jobs and bought a condo. (Whew!)

So I've only really been planning this past year. I would recommend that. You don't need more than a year to plan but if you have other life things going on then let those happen before getting married. It will help save your sanity.

Ours will be just over 9 months. I didn't want to wait this long. LOL But if I were planning a bigger wedding I would have needed longer.

Ours was 9 months and that was too long.

I would wait two years but i wouldve started saving from the day we got engaged instead of thinking, "eh, we've got plenty of time"

Ours is 13 months and I don't even know if I can wait that long. I can't imagine waiting another year! But my FSIL had a two year engagement because she was also having her house built, so it sort of depends on the other things going on in your life.

We are having a year long engagement (engaged Oct. 19, 2013 - wedding Oct. 18, 2014) and, while it's nice having the time for the budget part and planning, I would LOVE to already be married to this man! I'm so excited for our wedding and I know it will be amazing, but I wish I could go ahead and call him my husband and start the next phase of our lives.

To do it again, I would plan on a 3-6 month engagement.

As it was we planned for 11 months and that was plenty long enough. I was ready to marry DH when he asked, but he had to move from out-of-state, and we had to buy a house together. That was the driving factor in what I considered a "long" engagement. Two years would have sent me over the edge.

I think I'd do an even shorter engagement. We will be engaged for a year and 2 months when we get married and I really don't feel overwhelmed by planning. Given our family circumstances (fiance's father has cancer) I wish that we had a 6 month engagement.

We were engaged in December 2013 - it was apparent by February we could not get married in 2014. Well we could have, but we would have had to have "settled" on what was available because none of our "top picks" were available. We spatted about this constantly because I was freaking out about it. Well we found a "dream venue" and we bumped it to October of 2015 because that was the month I wanted. Everyone bitched because "why were we waiting so long". Well, FH and I do not live together - my house has to be cleaned out to make room for another person, I just started a new job that may or may not work out, I am in debt with college loans up to my ears, FH's grandmother just had another heart attack - it would have been a very bad, stressful situation if we had gotten married this year. I am so glad we have another year to plan this out.

Edit: After 7 years together I did not see the rush either...

One. Our engagement is way too long. I just want to marry him already!

I had a 2 year and 4 month engagement. If I could go back I would have a 1 year or less engagement. Mine was way too long and I felt like I was wishing my time away just to get to the wedding!

We are having a 1 year engagement. We're down to 4.5 months now.

I am super planner lol. I have had almost everything done for quite a while. If we have a 2 year engagement I think I would be bored for a year waiting for our big day. lol

But everyone is different. Some people are super busy and 2 years to plan is nice.

A&J and I are date twins! And I feel the same as you - it was just the proposal was a total shock and we had never once talked about marriage on a serious level during our relationship. I was freaking out about not having a job, where would we live, my debt, and I did not want to start out our marriage with all this on our plate.

Our engagement will be almost two years by the time we get married (1 year 9 months) and I were to do it again I would shorten it. It is killing me that we are still a year away. But that being said, I am glad sometimes that I have a lot more time to plan then those that plan weddings in 6 months.

6 months or less! It seemed to take FOREVER. My engagement was around 17 months.

Two years has been great for us! We got to plan slowly well we were both working full-time and going to law school and business school at night. There has been limited stress, we've had all of the celebrations along the way (engagement party, bridal shower, bachelor / bachelorette party) without feeling like it was too much / too often for our family and friends.

ETA: There also was an 18 month wait for the church, and I love our church!