If YOU are a bridesmaid-do you give a check to the couple?

I do not expect any kind of gift from my BP. Its a gift for them to invest their hard earned money into our day. I gave one of my friends a note and small gift when I was her BM. It maybe totaled $45. But she also had a small wedding. If you feel like you want to, go for it! But I do not think it is expected.

I have, yes.

I gave a gift when I was moh in my sister's wedding... But I don't necessarily expect gifts from my bridesmaids... Because like anyone else at the wedding, you aren't supposed yo expect any gifts

I always do (usually its cash though)

Yes, I always have.

Not sure if I was supposed to, but I did at my sister's wedding.

I do. It's usually whatever is left that.i had budgeted for bridesmaid duties.

I usually do, although I have to admit that I didn't once because I had spent a tonnnnn on the wedding and the shower. That was a few years ago, and I still feel kinda guilty about it.

I have decided that if I am in weddings in the future, the bride/groom will get cash or a check from me at their actual wedding. That's what you *really* want by then anyway... either to use it on your Honeymoon, pay off something you rung up because of the wedding, etc. So, that's what I will be doing.

My girls got me actual gifts on our registry which was great too, in addition to everything they did for their dresses/shoes, and then they were all so awesome/drama free.

So much closer with all of them now after this experience

I give either a gift or cash...depending on which is more relevant for the couple.

That being said, I don't expect anything from my bridal party...although knowing them, I'm sure they'll do something.

I always give at least $50 but it's really what you can afford.

I have never been a BM as an adult but I would give cash and a smallish gift.

Honestly, I have only been in a wedding once and I obviously was super dumb and didn't know what I was doing as an MOH because I didn't help with anything. Now planning my wedding now, I feel TERRIBLE. She and her husband are moving back to where we live now that he's getting out of the navy and I plan on taking them out for a very nice dinner or something. I feel really bad about it.

I would definitely give a present and/or a check. If I'm a bridesmaid, it would be for a very close friend, so I would want to give them a present on their wedding day ... I couldn't imagine doing otherwise.

I think it's up to the person. If anyone wants to give a gift than fine. Im not expecting anyone to give me a gift at all. Especially my bridal party. They took their hard earn money and spent on their dresses tux's hair makeup and etc so I just want them to enjoy their time at the wedding.

My only time as a bridesmaid was for my sister. I bought her 2 small shower gifts (a photo frame and a really funky bowl from ikea) I gave a cash gift for the wedding.

That being said, my mother paid for my dress (I was a single mum at the time). I paid for my son's tux rental. I think I gifted like $75 and felt horrible but I knew she would unserstand

No, but I buy shower presents.

Both FH and I will still give a gift (cash).

I've been a bridesmaid 3 times. And never given a gift. I was in college and broke twice, and going through a hard time the 3rd time. I feel bad about it now.

Yes. I give a check or a gift card.