If i give a monetary shower gift do i still have to get a gift for the wedding?

Yes. Usually shower gifts and wedding gifts are different. As in, they're two separate gifts.

Yes, absolutely. They are two separate events.

Yes, you should bring a gift to the wedding as well.

I honestly don’t understand the difference... I thought the shower was to get the gifts in advance so I don’t see why 2 gifts. But I’m very naive when it comes to this things and apparently you should 🤷🏽‍♀️.

It's definitely expected to get something for each, at least as a token! So if you're buying a fancy present for one event, it's fine to get a bottle of champagne or a gift card for the other. It's awful etiquette to expect *big* gifts at both the shower and the wedding... but it's similarly shoddy to turn up empty-handed.

Wedding gifts are traditional but not required. If you already gave your entire gift budget at the shower that's fine, don't worry about giving an additional gift at the wedding. Just write the couple a heartfelt congratulations card. Also, in some areas it's tradition to give a present at either the shower or the wedding, but not both.

Yes, gifts to both. Each are individual events. Generally I buy a gift for the shower and either buy a small gift AND give cash for the wedding or just give more cash at the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Over time, all people close to the couple would give a wedding gift. Once only family would give any money, usually older relatives, and all others would give things. Now, sometimes depending on the social group, some couples get money from more guests, and few actual boxed gifts. And others still get almost all boxed gifts,a very little money. . . .Dating back to days when the women of the family, and a few closest friends, would gather to fill a chest of household things ( sometimes called a hope chest) , and hand make, embroider or buy special lingerie and a few clothing outfits suitable for travel, church, small wardrobe, the shower gifts were always a second gift, still are. Which is why only the bride's closest women friends, and any women of the groom's family, have been invited to attend a shower. You should not ask the second gift of any but the closest people. . . Shower or wedding gifts are the choice if the giver. Those who want suggestions may look at a registry, and buy things there. Or ask Bride or groom, or a family member the B&G gave a wish lists, things they may want not of a particular brand, or store, or from a store which does not have a registry. As long as the giver asks the couple, what are you saving for, or what would you like, it is fine to answer, money for new appliances, funds for school, a table saw...any reasonable gift including money. But as any gift is the choice of the giver, not the recipient, it is considered very rude, bad manners, for people to ask anyone to give them presents, it money. So, Brides never give a shower to get gifts for themselves, and presents or registries are never mentioned in an invitation to a wedding. Never. . . The shower, however , is given by any female friend of the bride, or any female family member of the bride, or by women of the groom's family who may not know the bride well, but want to welcome the bride to the family. . . A lot of people think the MOH, it Bridesmaids, are responsible to throw a shower. Wrong, a misunderstanding. Because showers are given by closest female friends and family, and the bride chooses some of them to be her bridal party, it often does work out that they are hostesses for showers. But if any or all of them do not volunteer, any other close female friend or family member may offer, often a few together. . . Sometimes, a bride will have multiple showers, given by different hostesses. Perhaps one where they grew up, for nearby friends and family. While a few hundred miles away, a doz n f iebds from school or work will have one. And MOG and groom's aunts may give one for family near their home. Better than people traveling far for a minor party if the wedding. Usually only people who will definitely be invited to the wedding are invited to give a second gift at the wedding, at any party hosted by close people going to the wedding. . . The other kind if shower, usually given close to the wedding, is from small groups if less close friends from some specific groups. The invites are out, and they all know they are not invited. But still want a little celebration. So they buy very small dollar amount gifts, sometimes a few people combined for items. It they take a collection of small dollar amounts. And buy one gift from the group. Where regular showers of close friends may have gifts $50-$100 in value, groups of people at work, it a choral group, an exercise class group, dance group, may collect only $5 per person. And some small value gifts are a theme item. For example, I love to cook, particularly bake. So my neighbors from growing up, people whose kids I babysat, whose farms I worked on, and coworkers in inns and the library where I worked, had a Cook's shower. Limit of $5, or something the person's family produced, that is good for cooking. So 3 people gave me 2 pounds if cashews, and individuals gave me $2 to 5 dollar bottles if extracts, it spices, it baker's chocolate and chocolate chips. And from agricultural families, 1/2 gallons if maple syrup, quarts of honey, 5 lb tin of hazelnuts, and jams , jellies, and frozen berries. With a recipe from each person. So a group if less close friends, truthfully none if whom would have travelled to my wedding if I did invite them. But they wanted a little do to wish me well. This kind of shower follows totally different rules, and is usually the only gift given by these people. Pretty common. And as common sense says, sometimes 1 or 2 people who are invited to the wedding, may attend a shower like this as part if the people at work, or other group. But they only contribute as much as non-invitees at this shower, a few dollars, and if they give a bigger shower gift, it is at a shower if invited guests. . . Some things about showers. There are more.