Ideas for honoring both deceased parent's in wedding?

Also my sister is deceased, is it only right for me to add her as well! I would really like to I just don't know what to do.....to include her! Ideas????

Something to consider, is how emotional you will be on the day - like you've already said! I want to honour my grandparents, and thought of having a candle lit, or words said during the ceremony. My FH thought this was too much, and it would upset me, and he's right. Instead, I have their photos in a locket tied to the handle of my bouquet, and they will be honoured in the speeches at the meal.

If you can handle the emotion of it though, I think your suggestions are very moving and appropriate.

Hey There... I was going thru the same thing.. My Mom passed and my FH dad passed so we are honoring them throughout the wedding with ther favorite flowers.. Sunflowers for my mom and Roses for his dad.. They will be on their seats in the front in my BM flowers and my flowers.. on the centerpieces and mixed in throughout.. a single rose and sunflower will be all over.. Its kind of our theme..

I really like your idea for the hat and flowere... I hope I dont bust out crying looking at all the flowers also...

I love you idea Excited. the flowers and the hat is just perfect. i would have the seat next to your mother also with flowers for your sister.

I lost my Father this past April and I am hoping I wont end up bawling my eyes out like I am right now everytime i see posts "to remember those lost" arugh.

as for crying at your wedding maybe you could do a trial run and have a good cry before you walk down your cat walk for real? idk.... its hard.

First I am so sorry for all of your losses. We can all agree that losing someone so close and important to you is by far the hardest and Thank God for the comforter that he has sent us all in our FH's. @Michelle I agree with the trial as it will be very emotional. I was thinking of doing something for my Mom and Daughter but decided against it only because I don't think I 'll handle it well. We are getting married on my Moms birthday and my daughters bday is the day after. I know I'm already going to be an emotional wreck. I've heard of people doing a candle lighting rememberance, letting doves go with an olive brach or even ballons.

Thank you, alot ladies! I know it will be hard but I will be glad I did it, and can look back and see how special it was! Very good ideas!! @Michelle, I really like the idea of adding flowers for my sister, by my mom's seat! Also, good idea of doing a trial run, so I won't be so emotional during my cat walk!!

The loss of a parent is a very devastating one. I lost my mother 11 years ago. However, i'm doing some of the same things to honor her like Kirsty. I'll leave one of the seats up front at the ceremony empty and place a white rose there. I also have the locket with her picture and plan to tie it to my bouquet. Just make sure that whatever you do, that it doesn't allow your emotions to get the best of you. Even though our parents may be gone, they still want us to be happy. So make sure whatever you decide, that it makes you smile when you think of them.

I too lost my mother when I was 9; I couldn't imagine all the losses you've gone through, you must be quite strong! Ya I agree about teh trial run thing, just when I read your idea about the hat and flowers it made my eyes start to feel teary! I plan on perhaps having one flower on the seat; but having it their before hand; but then having a picture and in memorium candle at the reception..do you know if your parents had like "their song"? if so you could incorporate it into the ceremony somehow, like maybe have that music while people are seated or something; or maybe for your entrance to the reception your FH could wear a hat instead of one on teh seat if you feel thats too sad..Let us know what you decide! :-) :Hugs!:

@Ms.Boop....thank u so much! I am also sorry for your losses as well! N yes, Thank God for the comforter he has sent in our FH, it's truely a blessing! Awww, and I was thinking of doing the same....as in having my wedding on my Mom's b-day but dat would be to much for me, so we decided to have it a day before my birthday! N were thinking about including the candles also...I wanted to include the doves but we will be inside the church so that would be kinda hard to do! I wish you all comfort and many blessings!!

I'm sorry for all of your losses. I too lost some family members that I would like to honor on my wedding day, 4 grandparents, and a baby brother, two grandparents that I knew well, and the other two were deceased long before I was born. I like the idea of lockets hanging off the bouquet. I have some pearls from one of my grandmother's and would love to incorporate it somehow.

Awww....thank you all! I am getting all emotional over here! Yes I've been through alot but God has pulled me through, even though I didn't believe I would make it! I love all the great ideas, and I appreciate them all! Hugs to everyone!!

@jass maybe you can wrap the pearls around the bouquet?

I am doing the charms on my bouquet for both of my parents. I think lighting candles or anything else will be too emotional for me.

You could do hi top tables with their pictures & light candles/votives around them.

Ooo I like the charm idea, I may steal that one, not sure yet! Also instead of the garter toss/bouquet toss I am dedicating/giving my bouquet to my Grandma; she's still alive and will be there, but in my little speech to her I am going to say something to the effect of thanking her for raising my mom as she did..that kind of sappy stuff. tear jerker for sure! lol

Sorry for your lost, I lost my dad and grandpa, and a few dear friends, and Fh lost 3 of his grandparents and some dear friends that we would've loved to have at our wedding, so we were thinking about naming our tables after them with their pictures and votives candles around them, not sure what we'll do yet, but this is what we came up with so far, we don't want anything too emotional.

The flowers/hat idea is beautiful. If you were close with your sister, and would have had her as a member of your bridal party, here is another idea for her: Place a beautifully decorated pedestal next to the alter & bridesmaids with a framed picture and matching bouquet. This would symbolize her standing in her place, as well as honor her memory. Best wishes for a beautiful day, and I'm so sorry for your losses!

I agree with most of what's already been said. Both of my parents are deceased and my fiance's grandmother (whom he was really close to) is deceased, as well. So I am having charms made with a picture of my mom for my sister's coursage (MOH), my bouquet, and my brother's boutonierre, and charms made with my FH's grandmother's picture for his boutonierre, his sister's coursage (BM), his brother's boutonierre (GM), and his mom's coursage. We will also have the minister ask for a moment of silence for them, we will have a remembrance candle, and I was thinking about having my FH dance with me, my sister dance with her husband, and my brother dance with his wife to a special song for my mother since I won't have anyone to dance with after my FH dances with his mom. Hope this helps! Just do whatever you think you can to honor them while keeping your composure during your day. They wouldn't want you to cry the whole time!

I really love your idea Excited. I was thinking of how i would honor my mother as well without it making me break down and crying. Going over ideas with my best friend of 22yrs. who had a kidney issues that they had no idea how she developed it,she was to be my maid of honor she passed away 2mos ago so now i am trying to figure out how to honor her as well it can be very emotional because on a day that will be one of the happiest days of your life you still know a piece of you is missing.good luck with whatever you decide

My father is deceased, and my FH's mother is deceased, i like the charm idea for me, does anyone have an idea what my FH can do to honor his mother??