I think the sale lady called me fat while dress shopping.

So what if we are big girls, I am too but when my fs even sees a glimps of my nake leg he is panting and telling me how hot I am. They find us sexy and that's what matters. Next time tell that sales lady "yes I am blessed cause I have curves, (then really look her up and down) oh sorry didn't mean to make you feel insecure." Do Not get upset or mad, get even. The key is and you only do this if someone makes a comment to you first but most skinny girls are really insecure about the fact that they have no curves, if they do have curves they are insecure about the fact that they're body isn't portionate... I have no problems what so ever pointing out their faults if they are going to make comments about me being a big girl. Just make sure you do it ask sly as them where they aren't ever really sure if your mad or even if your trying to insult them... All we have to remember is that our FS enjoy our bodies. I'll say something like "yeah my man likes having a woman that he can grab cont.

Onto and doesn't have to worry about breaking like those skinny little nothings he used to date" again make sure to look her up and down.... Hunny I have a whole load if you need them. I don't play with catty women. We as women should be banding togather and celebrating all body types. Not knocking eachother down.

I think your being to hard on yourself..I can bet she was talking about your girls,cause you are very blessed..

funny story..when i went to a store one time for some reason i couldn't find the formal dress section so i asked one of the workers..she told be we don't sell formal dresses in plus sizes...WTF...

Ursula your like a size six???? what the hell was that lady talking about?

It's amazing what people consider big these days. I'm a size 5/6 and get called "thick" all the time. I don't mind it b/c as I've said before "plus size" is a lot sexier then looking like a celery stick.

I totally agree. Every single woman fat or thin has an issue with some part of their body, and we need to remember that before we say things that are hurtful, which the sales woman didn't do clearly. I am not a plus size girl nor am I a size 0, but even being a size 6, I see things when I look in the mirror and get angry at myself over them, but then i realize that I am the only one who sees them and it's my issue to deal with.

But, if someone said something that made me feel bad about my body, I would certainly say something and then make sure they knew they just lost a sale and many others once my fellow brides hear about this. LOL.

The only thing that matters is the "sisterhood."

I mean how many times have I wanted to go up to a girl who weighs about 90lbs soaking wet with rocks in her pockets and tell her to eat a f-ing sandwich? Countless times. lol

I felt that way after the first time trying on dresses too!! They kept putting me in dresses that weren't flattering at all and I was so depressed after I went home. I cried that night and my poor FS just talked me through it. I really didn't think I'd ever find a dress that didn't make me look huge. And it definitely didn't help that all the sample sizes were 8s and 10s that I couldn't even fit over my hips. After I recovered, I went again to a different shop. The lady helping me was a bigger girl herself and I think that made all the difference. She understood the style of dress I needed and she was able to help me pick more flattering dresses. She had me try on 8 dresses...and 6 of them were gorgeous and I can't believe it but actually made me look like I have a small waist.

Don't get discouraged after one time. You will find something that looks great on you and you will feel beautiful in it. You just need to find a better and more polite sales lady.

@Gillian I thought I was the only person who thought that way! Everytime I'm out to lunch and I see a size 0 girl eating 3 grapes and a lettuce leaf then saying she's full, I want to shove a slice of pizza or something in her mouth. lol

Okay I'm only showing you this picture because I'm showing love and if I ever find this picture on facebook I will cry. I'm giving an example of how different men and women are. Now that I see what I look like I hate hate it but at the time I was going out for a girls night (I was at my heavest that I've ever been) and FS begged me to wear this outfit so I did. All the girls that I met up with, hated it and said I was wearing a t-shirt for a dress but do you know not a single guy at the bar that night would let me buy a drink for myself... I think it's all in the way you carry yourself, I hadn't seen myself all I knew was that FS thought I looked hot and sexy so I walked around like I was some hot stuff and guys really like that...

@Jess first congrats on your recent wedding. I hope it was everything you imagined and more. Second, considering we both live in kind of the same area, I am not shocked that we have the same thoughts about shoving food into a girls mouth. LOL.

Thanks ladies I feel alot better.@LutaWolf nope I will not put it on FB but thanks for showing the love.

You ladies are so right the lady that was helping me with my dresses could not have been more than a size 1. she was so small.

@Luta it is absolutely all about how you carry yourself. If you stand up straight, walk with your head up and emit confidence any woman can wear almost anything. Always wear clothes that flatter your figure and make you feel good.

Sexy is an attitude, not a size.

I agree w/ Ursula, maybe she wasn't talking about your weight; anyways if you felt uncomfortable at all go to another shop b/c ultimately it is your money and there is no need for anyone to make you feel bad about yourself; be proud of you and never mind those who can't accept people for who they are!

Yep skinny bitch with attitude and no personality. Jealously rears it's ugly head. You're blessed meant ...damn I wish I had boobs instead of the arse of a 12 year boy and no tits to go with it.

I agree with Luta, it is all about how you feel about yourself. if you are confident and sure about the way you look, you will be that much more attractive! my friend is super self consious about her body and is always complaining about it. guys and girls alike look at her like she is unattractive only because she points out her every fault. she is a gorgeous girl with curves but believes she is fat and makes everyone see that.

i was shopping once and i had a tupetop that fit me nicely. i was with a friend who was several sizes smaller, and the lady at the desk looks at her and says, "oh this must be for you!" ok....so because i am bigger means i cant wear a cute tubetop? you just gotta believe that you are beautiful, and dont let anyone say any different!

and Antonette, you are beautiful!!!

I'm so sorry Antonette!! Maybe she wasn't meaning it that way? I can relate...I've struggled with my weight since I was in high school..in high school I was very very heavy and then I lost the weight, then I put it back on, then lost it, etc. When I bought my dress I was at a weight I felt comfortable in but my mom had to point out every flaw she could find and I almost cried at Alfred Angelos!! I blinked back the tears though and decided to IGNORE her and tell myself..I'm beautiful, even with my flaws! Ignore that tacky saleslady!!! And I'm crossing my fingers that you have a better experience at the next store you shop at.

And i agree with sharon, shes just jealous!