i really don't want one of my Bm's "boyfriend" to come

I disagree about giving everyone single plus ones, but we are extending plus ones to our bridal party. I understand it sucks that you don’t like him but hopefully you will barely notice him day of! There are more important things

View Quoted Comment I have the unpopular opinion here too. Where I live it is very common that people only give people in serious relationships a plus one. I remember almost not being invited to my FH's cousins wedding bc they weren't sure if we had been together 2+ years. That is a little much in my opinion, but I do not think you HAVE to give plus ones for people who don't even have a label yet. That could get really out of hand and honestly most people don't even have enough room in their guest list to invite all the people they are close with, you shouldn't have to feel compelled to invite a stranger. That being said if it literally is the matter of this ONE friend bringing a plus one, I might choose not to pick a battle and let her bring him. If this would open a can of worms of people wanting to bringing plus ones then I'd say stick to your decision.

View Quoted Comment Wait what? I never said I needed her full attention. I have enough bridesmaids if I need anythiing

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If this is going to be your approach to your wedding and beloved guests, it is gonna be a long planning process with lots of petty frustrations.

Unless a date/SO has threatened bodily harm or is a risk to have at the wedding, they do not deserve to be excluded.

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I have my other personal reasons but I will not put him on the spot like that. I simply didn't appreciate the way he demanded her to leave my grad party. like i said, I thought it was kind of weird that he demanded for her to get up and go.

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Great! Then it shouldn't really be an issue. I only brought that up because in the graduation party example in your initial post, the fact that he wanted her to leave, when your perception was that "you were supposed to celebrate" together, seemed to be part of your concern. Sorry I misinterpreted why this situation is bothering you.

Yes girl stand your ground. It's not her day, it's yours and your FH. My cousin invited our aunt but not her husband because they always argue and she didn't want any drama at her wedding and I don't blame her.

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Thank you for your comment!

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Thank you for your comment!!!

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I just didn't like how he demanded her to leave at all and she was having fun.

With all these comments making it seem like I literally am making a big deal out of my graduation. I mean yes it was a big deal to me and I def wanted her and my other best friend to celebrate with me. I did not like that he demanded her to leave while she was having fun. So it makes me wonder if he's going to do the same thing at my wedding. I wouldn't want her to leave on another special day because of him.

Your bridesmaid should be able to bring a date, no matter who he is to her. She's in the wedding party, it's expected that she gets a plus-one, even if he's not her boyfriend.

And just because they don't label themselves in terms that you understand, doesn't mean you get to judge what their relationship is or isn't. Not everyone needs to be asked "will you go out with me?" like it's 6th grade.

This was last year so college graduation

This is YOUR wedding. Invite who you want. I disagree with a lot of the "etiquette" on this page. A lot of it sounds like somebody just pulled some rules out of their @$$. You have every right to decide who can or can not come. Its your money that is being spent, not theirs!

View Quoted Comment Judging by these comments I wasn't "the only one" lol

I just don't understand why inviting someone who you don't like to one of the most important days in ones life is something people feel they have to do.

If me and my FH are paying for our wedding (a party) then I get to decide who does and doesn't go. Period. If someone makes me uncomfortable or I think they are not someone I want to be there on my wedding day, then that is my choice.

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I'm surprised! I thought I was going to keep getting indirectly attacked lol and lectured.

I hear everyone's opinion. Its def something I want to share with my FH and see what we end up deciding. I dont wanna sound like a witch but idk what to do honestly.

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Looooove this. I get so tired of seeing "what you're supposed to do." I know that anybody I invite to my wedding could care less what the details were or any of that...and that's because I am only inviting the people who matter to me.

I did not say it gave you a free pass to treat your friends like crap. I also think this isn't a crappy thing to do. As a friend, she should understand that this is the bride's special day and only wants certain people there. I know that I would.

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Nope. NO. It's only one person's day when no-one else is involved. Once guests are invited it's not all about the wedding couple.

Yes, OP, you are in the wrong. No-one was "indirectly attacking" you. They were saying that you're incorrect.

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So,in your world it would be ok to invite your Grandma but not your Grandpa because you don't like him; to invite your brother but not his wife, because you don't like her? You would be ok with someone inviting you but not your FH or Husband because they don't like him?