i need you, August 2020 Brides.

So yesterday we got a call from our venue that they believe our state's social distancing guidelines will cut the venue capacity in half. I'm torn between finding a larger venue or just now inviting less people (awkward given that we sent save the dates, but honestly, some people we spoke to won't be coming anyways) and doing a larger party next year. No ceremony; just play a highlight reel from this year's. Avoid the ceremony over again, the rehearsal dinner, etc.

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Rafia - I'm a California 8/27 bride. Our venue is in South Lake Tahoe and was supposed to be back open on 5/1 but I haven't heard from them yet this week. I'm trying not to stress until June. We already have everything ready with the date printed on almost everything so I'm really hoping to not have to reschedule. With Newsom's phase 2 starting this week I'm hoping phase 3 will be here in June. Our guest list is 60, its a small closed in ceremony spot so I'm not sure if that will effect how many people can actually come.

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Ahhh.. what state are you in? Did they say if there's a maximum capacity of people your state would allow for weddings or anything? I'm in California and I feel like we are lost without any direction currently from the venue. They won't even reply to my emails .

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Ahh, I hope his phase 3 allows for wedding or atleast if Newsom can give some direction of how many people would be allowed at a wedding with social distancing protocols. I have a huge family with 150 people invited to the wedding so I am scared. I think you should be fine! Most of the hardest hit counties with Covid are in SoCal. Let's hope for phase 3 to be here asap! best of luck! I am here if you need another California bride to vent to

View Quoted Comment I agree it is so stressful. We are hoping to make a decision by mid to end of July. I pray we all can have a safe and healthy wedding.

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That's so disappointing. Like it's hard for your venues but it's hard for you too. I have to talk to our band, MUA, and our florist, but I will need some type of floral package and my make up done regardless of 5 people or 500 people. I'm able to amend our contract until 30 days before so I can hold off on that conversation. All my other vendors have proactively reached out.

I'm in Wisconsin. So our governor has Phases I, II and III. We haven't started any phase yet technically, but there's been a big push, and Phase II in the next 90 days seems realistic. Phase II is 50 guests in a gathering OR restaurants can open but be at 50% of their capacity. We're now trying to figure out if we just do something small and do an anniversary party next year or whether we should try to find a bigger venue.

August 21 in Michigan. Our governor is pretty strict here (rightly so, we have the third highest number of cases) with no talk of what phases will be, etc. Our stay-at-home order is supposed to expire on May 15 and I'm hoping that we will then have some guidelines around gathering sizes but I worry that I still won't have clarity on what to expect for August. We have a guest list of 285 people. I'm fine with cutting to 100 but would not be fine with cutting to 50. Either way, I don't have the energy to postpone. I don't think I'd be into a vow renewal next year because at that point, hoping to be working on a family and I just feel like I would have moved on from wanting to plan the big reception. I've been looking forward to planning a wedding all my life and I still can't believe this is happening. I'm sad about it, it sucks.

I'm getting married on 8/21 in NJ. For us, it's August 21st or bust. I can't wait another year to have a wedding because at that point, I just don't think we would be excited anymore. Our venue has been amazing and allowing us to pay for only the people who show up, which is great because at the end of the day, at least we're saving money and can put it towards a down payment on a house!! Our guest list consisted of 140 people, and we're now going to cut it down to 75, which I am okay with because those 75 people are the most important people in my life. I don't need the guys who play poker with my dad every Wednesday night there in order for me to have a good time. I'm still having my full band, and instead of having it in the ballroom (would look too awkward with only 75 people) we're going to do it outside since our venue is on top of a hill with beautiful views. We're going to have twinkle lights and floral installations so just because it's smaller doesn't mean you can't be creative with it!!

Hello Rafia
I feel like we are on the same boat, I'm in California as well and my guest list is a little over 150 people, I haven't heard anything from the venue or the vendors I'm hoping today May 9th we will start seeing some hope here, I'm waiting 2 more weeks to decide how we will proceed with the wedding so hopefully everything will be fine and all the brides here can happily celebrate their big day !!!

View Quoted Comment Hello Rafia
I feel like we are on the same boat, I'm in California as well and my guest list is a little over 150 people, I haven't heard anything from the venue or the vendors I'm hoping today May 9th we will start seeing some hope here, I'm waiting 2 more weeks to decide how we will proceed with the wedding so hopefully everything will be fine and all the brides here can happily celebrate their big day !!!

I’m in PA too and in the EXACT same boat. I feel totally robbed of what should be an exciting time.

Our venue just called to let us know they are postponing all weddings this summer. We honestly could not be any more relieved. The stress, uncertainty, and obsessively watching the news was just torture. We will have a small ceremony on August 14th, no matter what, and will have our big celebration at the venue on February 14- exactly 6 months later!


So excited about having two dates to celebrate! I guess this means I can go buy another dress for our intimate ceremony 😉 I’ll wear the glam ballgown for the reception! We also are saving money by moving the reception to the off season. Lots of silver linings.

View Quoted Comment I think we’re gonna go ahead and postpone. I can’t take the stress and anxiety!

View Quoted Comment It is so stressful! I hope postponing puts you at ease ❤️

View Quoted Comment My wedding is on August and to be safe we have

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View Quoted Comment Nice. We are going to have to do September 2021 because the venue is booked May through August!!

View Quoted Comment So our wedding is August 29th in IA! Any other other brides? We are struggling to make a decision as we both live with our own parents still and our building our forever home which may not be finished by then. I am nervous because it’ll be a large 400 guest wedding.

View Quoted Comment We were 8/22 in Ohio and we are going to postpone to 9/18/21. Dates are going quick with venues for next year especially if you want a Saturday! We had 175 on our guest list and honestly the stress was just taking over!