I need to express my frustration ABOUT MY PRO PHOTOS

I am just wondering what shots you had a head of those ones. He should have gotten those but if you had people interupting portaits or no one assisting with getting people together to get pictures taken he may have been trying to get the ones he could thinking he would get the others later.

Those are the ones I am most upset about. I don't care that he didn't get all of them. And yes, I gave him an hour because he said he could do it. I gave him my list, he said he liked it. I also asked him to take the groom's family pictures and groom and groomsmen pictures BEFORE the ceremony. He was there early enough to do it but he didn't get anything done before the ceremony. I didn't even get a picture with my aunt (who is like my mom). It is very rare that my aunt and uncle get dresses up and are in pictures so that will probably never happen again.

This is the big list...

Getting Ready: (Done by MOH and Bestman)

Bride:

1. Wedding dress on a hanger

2. All BM dresses and Wedding dress on hangers together

3. Clothes and bouquet before I get ready (have sample pic)

4. Engagement ring and wedding bands

5. Bride and bridesmaids' bouquets

6. Bride’s Jewelry

7. Bride’s makeup getting done

8. Bridesmaids and/or mother of the bride helping the bride into her dress

9. Putting on the headpiece

Groom:

10. Suit and groom’s accessories before he gets ready

11. Groom tying his tie

12. Father pinning boutonniere on the groom

13. Leaving for the ceremony

14. Father’s reaction to the bride

Before ceremony: (a couple pictures of each)

Bride:

15. Bride alone

16. Bride with aunt and uncle

17. Bride with uncle

18. Bride with aunt

19. Bride with family

20. Bride with Mother-in-law

21. Bride with bridesmaids

22. Bride with maid of honor

23. Bride with Flower Girl

24. Bride with “grandparents”

Groom:

25. Groom alone

26. Groom with mom and dad

27. Groom with dad

28. Groom with mom

29. Groom with grandma

30. Groom with family

31. Groom with groomsmen

32. Groom with best man

33. Groom with “father-in-law”

34. Groom with Ring Bearer

Other:

35. Room shots at ceremony (before anyone is seated)

36. Room shots at reception (while no one is inside the room/before the ceremony)

37. Close-up of centerpieces

38. Guests as they arrive

39. Guests sitting and mingling before ceremony

During Ceremony:

40. Wedding party and parents walking down the aisle

41. Bride walking down the aisle

42. Groom’s face as he waits/sees her (Very Important!)

43. The vows

44. Ring exchange

45. Close-up of the exchange of rings

46. The first kiss as husband and wife (from behind)

47. The recessional

48. Anything else important

After Ceremony: (at least a couple of each)

49. Bride and Groom alone

50. Bride and groom with Pastor and his wife

51. Groom with his sister

52. Bride, groom, bride's immediate family

53. Bride, groom, bride's aunt and uncle

54. Bride, groom, groom's immediate family

55. Bride, groom, groom's parents

56. Bride, groom, both sets of “parents”

57. Bride, groom, both immediate families

58. Bride and groom with extended families

59. Bride, groom, maid of honor, best man

60. Bride, groom, Maid of honor

61. Bride, groom, best man

62. Bride with groomsmen

63. Groom with bridesmaids

64. Bride, groom, ring bearer

65. Bride, groom, flower girl

66. Bride, groom, full wedding party

67. Groom holding out ring with groomsmen doing their best “female” reaction to it

68. Forehead kiss

69. The rings

During Reception:

70. Everyone sitting

71. Reception entrances

72. The first dance

73. Father/daughter dance

74. Mother/son dance

75. The toasts

76. Memorial dance

77. Dollar dance

78. The cake cutting

79. Bouquet and garter toss

80. Parents of bride dancing

81. Parents of groom dancing

82. People dancing

83. Us with everyone at each table

84. Children having fun

85. Bride, groom, all of the children

86. Couple’s departure

Other Stuff:

87. Signing of marriage certificate

88. Holding Marriage License

89. Bridesmaids posing how they think the groomsmen will

90. Groomsmen posing how they think the bridesmaids will (with bouquets)

91. Take a picture of the rings with a newspaper from the day of your wedding.

92. The Food

93. Decorations

94. The entire room

95. The ceremony area

The 95 pictures aren't JUST the ones I wanted of US and of PEOPLE. IT was a list of EVERYTHING...so when you say that 95 photos are A LOT I think not.

Directing your photographer to take 95 posed shots is a lot. Essentially you're micromanaging him by not allowing him to use his innate talent and skills to capture your wedding properly. I definitely agree that the portraits should have been handled (and that's actually what a must have shot list entails), but the others are too much.

He isn't a regular profession, which is why I said you get what you pay for, he is a free lance photographer and he WANTED me to give him list of all the shots I wanted.

(ETA: spelling)

And like I said, they aren't all of PEOPLE. He could VERY well have gotten everything.

Professional or not...again not trying to sound insensitive but after seeing your list, I still think it is ridiculous. You made the list, why didn't you remember all 95 must have photos?

Yea I think honestly you.gave home too many and he just told you the list looked great but he didn't need you telling him what detail shots to get. Your portrait must haves we're buried under a list of details and he probably didn't have the time to read through to make sure he got every single shot.

Your biggest mistake was having only one photographer. There's no physical way he could have gotten all of those shots by himself. Who is supposed to be with you when he's off taking pics of the reception before people are in it, or with guests mingling before the ceremony. There's just no way.

I don't think you're going to get a lot of sympathy here honestly. :-/ and since its already over, it's probably best just to focus on the pictures you do have. Maybe the other 362 that he delivered that you didn't ask for will grow on you in time.

I's sorry but this is just too much and some of these shots are absolutely ridiculous.

Like this: "28. Bridesmaids posing how they think the groomsmen will 29. Groomsmen posing how they think the bridesmaids will (with bouquets)"

Seriously??

Yes, because doing as he asked is terrible. We had a conversation about it...He wanted to know what I wanted pictures of. He has only done a couple weddings before but never a ceremony (all of the others he shot it was a temple Mormon wedding) so he wanted to know what I was looking for. Giving him a list of 95 pictures of what I wanted ( the first 14 not even being for him and he knew that) was not a lot. I gave him the list he wanted. Yes, it would have been really nice to have 2 photographers but we aren't all lucky to have that much money. I am very lucky to have had a photographer at all. He still should have been able to do what he said he was going to do. And really? Why didn't I remember all of them? Well, I thought he had taken more than he actually had. And I was a little flustered most of the day, I couldn't remember much of anything.

I'm not really looking for sympathy. I just needed to get it out because I am upset. I actually didn't really expect so many people to comment.

And yes, I wanted a couple fun ones Emily. Why the hell not? It's not your wedding pictures and I liked the idea.

Your. Expectations. We're. Too. High. He was doing you a favor. If photography was so important to you, you should have hired a professional. You have zero. Z.E.R.O. room to complain, aside from the portraits. You literally asked him to be in two places at once. Even you should have known how impossible it would be to get all of your silly shots and pics of empty rooms at the same time. The only person you should be frustrated with is yourself.

Also, we only got a total of 349 pictures and I've looked at them a few times over...I don't think all of them will really grow on me.

Honestly he probably did attempt to get all the pictures you wanted but because he is a novice they didn't work so he didn't give them to you. Take what you got. You don't seem to hate the ones he did take.

Yes, I had high expectations. And no, I didn't expect him to be 2 places at once. I asked him to do SOME photos before the wedding and some after. He he was there almost 2 hours early (I wan't even there then) and didn't do anything before the wedding started. He could have gotten pictures done then. So thank you.

I'm sorry you didn't get all the pictures you wanted. I do believe the list was long and probably overwhelming, especially to someone that doesn't do a lot of wedding photography. And with only one photographer, I don't think all of these shots were possible, he can't be I. Two places at once. Did you or you husband say anything to him? You must have noticed for example that the groom and groomsmen didn't pose for any pictures, and you didn't pose with the flower girl. While my photographer took most on his own, I also told him when I wanted a certain shot taken.

If you had high expectations for photography, why did you hire someone who has never done a real, full wedding? Whyyyy!!?