i need some advice.

Talk to him. That’s most important. Let him know right now just isn’t the time. Like you said you have other things going on and you really don’t need him adding to that. But in a nice way of course so it doesn’t come on snobby.

View Quoted Comment I try too.
And some things go in one ear and out the other.
Like honsetly I don't think he is even happy with my future hubby. My FH didn't do anything wrong it was my father. So he kinda brought it on to himself.
Like when I try to about the wedding to him .I just get stupid answers or I get that's nice.

View Quoted Comment Ohhh. I gotcha. Will he be walking you down the aisle? He might be having a hard time accepting you getting married.

View Quoted Comment Him and My mother are walking me down.


I really don't know. What's going on to be honest.

View Quoted Comment I’d say maybe limit the amount of conversation you have with him for the moment. At least that way you don’t have to deal with his responses and attitude towards the wedding.

View Quoted Comment I will .
I just feel he isn't happy for me.

And its not like he is helping me with anything.Like don't get me wrong my FH and I have things covered all .And my has bought soooo many things for thr wedding and bridal shower [ for next year].Not saying he had to pay for it all . But just a little kind of help would be nice.
Don't get me wrong he helped with my dress [ and yes I am happy and grateful for that bc that was one less thing I had to worry about] yes it was a nice amount..I'm not trying to sound ungrateful bc I'm not.But like he hasn't helped anymore than the dress. Which is okay. But just like $20 towards something would be nice.
I'm sorry for venting.

View Quoted Comment No worries at all Katie! It’s a safe place. I completely understand. Typically father of the bride is the one who’s supposed to pay or at least help out with the wedding. So I understand your frustration. I hope over time he can become more excited and helpful to you for your wedding.

View Quoted Comment I hope so :/ !


Yeah that's what I thought. But he hasn't helped out much .I mean its whatever causeMyself and my FH and my mom have things covered. But it just would be nice if my father helped too..
I understand he has bills and blah blah and whatever else. But he can buy also 500 dollar must be nice. 🙄 I'm not saying he doesn't deserve it. But it would be nice just to get half of it.
But I bet. If it was my step sister getting married they would help more. Since I get ignored and thrown to the side :[

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry to hear that Katie. Maybe ask your dad and see what he says. He might be willing to do half.

View Quoted Comment It's okay.
I'm use it.
Been use it since I was young.It's nothing I should be surprised about.
Well I told him about the cake and about how much . He was like ill give you $75 towards it next year. 😒😒😒 but im not counting on it.

View Quoted Comment You never know. He might actually keep his word. And when he does give it to you, it’ll be when you least expect it.

View Quoted Comment Yeah hopefully.....
But im not counting on it tho....

I think the best thing to do when someone is stressing you out is to limit contact and set boundaries. It can be really difficult at first, but once you realize how good it feels it becomes way easier to protect your own peace.

View Quoted Comment I understand. I hope it gets better ❤️

View Quoted Comment Thank you!

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the advice!

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This is the best advice in these kinds of situations. If someone's responses are stressing you out or letting you down, don't give them anything to respond to.

I have a family member who LOVES to tell me that nobody is going to come to the wedding (because it's too fancy, it's not in the bride's hometown, etc. 🙄), so I just stopped bringing up anything about the wedding whenever we talked. It sucks because I thought they'd be way more supportive and excited, but my whole life they've always tried to make me "lower my expectations" whenever something special was coming up (read: never be excited for something I was looking forward to or working towards). Weddings tend to bring out the worst in a lot of people, so do what you can to protect your own peace of mind.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for the advice.
I appreciate it very much !

Yeah I'm Not going to be bringing up the wedding to this person anymore.
I thought they would be happy for me.But it seems like they aren'tIt hurts my feelings but I'm not going to let it stress me out so much.I have way more other things to worry about.