My fiance has 3 kids under the age of 10 from a previous marriage and I have a 6 year old and we have 1 together. Total we have 4 boys and 1 girl (ages 8,7,6,5,19 months). We keep going back and fourth about what the kids can do in the wedding. We decided that his daughter will be the flower girl and we cant decide on a ring bearer because we have so many boys. He says the oldest should be but I dont agree because his son is the oldest and I just dont feel good about the fact that 2 of his kids have positions but neither of mine do, afterall its my day too. I really didnt want to have them as groomsmen because the brides maids are all adults and i think it will look strange at the alter. are there any other positions in which i can include the boys? also is it possible to have a flower girl and boy? please help!!!