FH and I have been dating for 6 years his August. We got engaged on July 4th, 2017. We had originally booked a venue but ended up canceling it as FH decided he had anxiety and commitment issues and did not want to get married. He also mentioned that he wasn’t sure if he wanted to have kids. He is about to turn 30 and I am about to turn 26. We have been living together since 2016.
We went to therapy and got to a place where we were okay again, but the topic of marriage remained a taboo subject. Two years later, people are, of course, asking relentlessly when we were going to get married. Not wanting to divulge my personal issues, I always answered with a quick and dismissing “oh, I don’t know.”
II have been patient and supportive of his feelings up until two weeks ago when I got a lecture from my DENTIST. I feel like that was the line and I started pushing the matter of getting married again. This inevitably triggered his anxiety and I don’t know what to do any longer.
I thought his anxiety was driven by the financial aspect of having a wedding so I have offered to front the entire bill for the wedding, I avoided talking about the wedding for a year and a half, and I accepted how II was being treated. I feel like I am at a fork in the road and I don’t know what to do. Our relationship is extremely great. He takes very good care of me and is truly my best friend, which is so rare to find especially nowadays.
I feel like I gave the metaphorical milk away, so is it worth moving out and ending our relationship when it obviously has very little chance to go any further. Is getting married grounds for losing your best friend?
I feel like I just want to get married at this point to be able to tell all the wondering eyes that were married. I feel like this whole experience has been RUINED so what’s the point? This is all so disappointing. I don’t understand what the big deal is.
Can you give me a strangers opinion on my situation?