i need addvice on how to tell my parents

Just tell her hon, I can't come up with any easy way to say it, if you were old enough to marry then you are old enough to just come right out and tell her, I know it might hurt her but I don't know what else to tell you. Good Luck!

Congrats on your wedding. As the PP stated there is no easy way. You can plan a fun filled day with your mom and then tell her. Depending on if you have a set future wedding (vow renewal) date you can just not tell her you are engaged. She may be sad because a mother almost always want the best and to be part of the celebration, but still she will understand.

Good luck

I agree with pp. When I got pregnant with my son 13 yrs ago, I was scared to death to tell my mom...and I was 27!!! I see you have a 'wedding date'. Just tell her your reasons why and that you plan on having a big bash then. Good Luck

Was there a reason why you haven't told her, and went to the JP.. I feel like the other.. Just tell her.. you owe her that much.

Based on previous posts of yours, I'm going to go out on a limb and say you kept it secret because your husband didn't want you to tell anyone? Like he didn't want your dad to be there, nor did he want to accept their monetary gift? You're married and that shouldn't be something to hide, but to be celebrated. I know if I had kids and one of them ran off and got married I'd be considerably more hurt the longer it took them to tell me.

Just curious...why did you get married in secret and not tell your family?

I say just tell it. You can't keep it secret forever or it will crush you. Whats in the dark always comes out in the light. In my opinion I feel that if you have to sneak to get married or hide a marriage then it's not meant to be. Please don't take any offense to my statement. I hope things work out well with you and your parents. Just pray on it and go tell them.

The sooner you tell her the better, she's bound to feel more hurt and upset about it the longer you wait to tell her. Invite her over to dinner and present it as a surprise maybe?

I agree with Jessy. Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy. Sure, she will feel hurt . . . but feelings heal over time and perhaps if you have a reason she will understand about why you went to the JP instead of waiting the news might come easier for her.