I know I'm old, but don't I get a bridal shower too?

I know how you feel. I'm 44, and this will be my 2nd marriage, but I didn't have a shower for my 1st either. We found out I was pregnant while planning my 1st, so I got a baby shower instead. This one, I'm not having any attendants, so I don't expect my friends will think of it. Still, it's a little sad..

I will be 32 when FH and I get married next year (for the first time each) and even though both of our mothers have already talked about planning a shower, FH thinks we don't need anything because we "have everything already." Which isn't true at all...but my mother happened to have made a comment once saying that we weren't 25 and getting married, which gave me a complete meltdown and it was the one and only thing she has said or done that wasn't 100% supportive.

I don't have any attendants either, but it still sucks it hasn't occurred to anyone, especially since everyone was basically fighting over who would throw my sister's baby shower a year ago

It's normally up to your bridal party to make the arrangements for a shower so if you haven't given anyone the honour of being a BP member, they likely will just assume someone else will host the shower for you. It's probably more about that then your age.

Maybe plant the bug in your daughter's ear to ask her grandma or aunt to help her throw you a shower.

I am 45 I am having a shower however it 's being giving by the entire bridal party Co-Ed BBQ. I think Its hard if the only bm you have is very young that being said am surprised someone didn't do a little something for you. So sorry for you.

I'm 21, and no one has offered to throw me one yet. You could throw a get together for your bridesmaid and other people that are close to you as a thank you to them for helping you out and being there for you sort of thing (wouldn't be a bridal shower, obviously).

Aww no! I'm so sorry! Could you ask any family members to help you out, maybe just a BBQ get together?

How about planning a quick one yourself? As long as you say "no gifts," I don't see why you can't do a pre-wedding bridal party.

I'm sorry I think it's too late at this point to do anything about it, but look on the bright side - you're getting married in 11 days!

I'm sorry, at least you're getting married in 11 days!!!

I would say it has more to do with the fact that your daughter is the only one in the bridal party. I'm in a similar situation, since my FH's 12 year old daughter is the only one in the wedding with us. I have some friends who asked to throw me one, which was awesome. I don't think it has so much to do with age as you think it does. Although I could be wrong.

I think a lot of people look at people our age getting married and think "Oh, they must have everything", etc. We also have no attendants and my friends have busy lives, so I get it, but it's definitely a downer. :/

That's too bad that no one stepped up to throw one, but not everyone has a shower. I agree that it's probably the result of having only your daughter in the bridal party.

You could host a brunch / luncheon for your close friends, mother, aunts, etc. It would not be a shower with gifts, but would still give you some fun girl time before the wedding.

Nobody is offering me one either, was told I have lived too long on my own for one, psh? what!

Apparently my aunt is thinking about doing one for me, we will see..

I am getting married second time ,no bridal party so my mom is having one for me.I asked her,this is my fiancés first weddng.My daughter and son are the only people in the wedding.

I know I'm to blame for only having my daughter as a BM and my son as his GM. We wanted to have a small wedding but we also wanted to include the kids ( we are a package deal after all ). It's not about wanting gifts, although because we have not lived together we do need things, I guess it's because it's "tradition" to have one? My life from the day I was born has not even come close to "traditional" or even "normal" for that fact. I guess for once I just wanted to be like everyone else and do something the way it's supposed to be done. Thank you ladies for your support, It makes me feel a bit better knowing I'm not the only one!

I understand. When you've been independent most of your life and have spent time at other bridal and baby showers, you wonder when it is your turn? In fact, I joked around before I turned 50 that I was going to have an "Old Maid" shower, just because I've had to live off of dishes from Target for the last 15 years and have old pots/pans, etc. LOL.

But then I met FH. And we aren't having a wedding party, either. I do think one of my sisters is going to throw a shower, though.

hugs to you!

I know its a sign of love to throw someone a party, but why do you feel you need one? You both have children and households i'm assuming, which usually means you have the essentials. Showers are parties with the express purpose of giving gifts. do you feel you won't receive the gifts you registered for at the wedding? the fact that you are having a small wedding is also a factor. only people who are coming to the wedding should be at your shower. Why not just throw a "for fun" pre-wedding party? invite everyone over and celebrate. i'm 24 and not having a shower. why would I? We have a household and I'm sure we'll receive wonderful gifts at the wedding. i think you're missing the celebration more than anything. Throw a party and never look back and wonder what traditional is like, because its a fictitious notion!

I am older also. also not my 1st marriage, or his. we have already been living together for 6 years. we,in total, have 6 kids. we have everything and then some. I dont want a bridal shower. I dont want people to feel obligated to buy me anything off a registry. If they want to buy anything they can just bring it to the wedding.

I understand. I originally said to my friends, no bridal shower but now I kind of want one. Luckily one of my friends/BMs asked my FH if I'll be okay with a small gathering (not a shower), so we’ll probably have a small group for dinner at one of my favorite restaurants. Perhaps you can ask a close friend to organize a potluck or a dinner with close friends at a restaurant.