I hate our officiant.

I haven't heard from my officiant and haven't even received a draft from him.

I'm worried, but at the same time he's a family friend and pastor of my childhood church. He's known for being kind of flaky in the communication department but then pulls it together.

I don't think it's too late -- we didn't finalize our ceremony until about 3 weeks before our wedding. I would talk to the head of that officiant group and explain your concerns -- perhaps your deposit can be "moved" to someone else within the group.

It sounds to me that most of the communication has been happening over email. Have you tried picking up the phone and reaching out to her by phone to express your concerns?

I would like to phone him. I plan on asking for his number if he gets back to us.

I am so sorry you are having a bad experience with the officiant. definitely speak to the officiant group and they hopefully can coordinate with you to make sure that they do not become an issue for you.

I once heard form a photographer this quote, and as a vendor I live by it:

"I want you to be stressed about everything else but me. The day you book my services, this will become the least stressing part of your entire wedding"

If things are not working out the best with your officiant, you can probably find someone else in the vendors section here at WW.

. . . i know it is probably too late to ask this question, i'm just not sure by the way your message is worded - - but you signed a contract and paid a deposit without ever meeting the person? or you had met, and didnt know he was going to be so lax in communicating?

there isn't a phone number on the contract? aye. this whole things sounds frustrating. have you thought about contacting the lady you mentioned that is in charge of the group? even just to get a direct phone number for this person?

i know it is very frustrating, but time-wise you are still in good shape. sometimes i think people that do wedding things for a living lost sight of the fact that this is not something other people do every day... so to them it is not nearly as critical as it may be to us... especially when he probably has 20 wedding between now and yours...

regardless, he should certainly be reachable. honestly, if you do not think this person is a good fit DO NOT have them marry you.

Oh geez....I have to say that a chill ran up my spine and I looked at my wall to see if any of my 'guys' were booked on your date. Whew.

The fact that you don't have a final script isn't THAT problematic; my weddings for that weekend will go out of here in the beginning of Apri, which gives us plenty of time for rewrites, etc. That's not what I would be worried about. The lack of communication and missed deadlines are a different story.

First, you should have a phone number. Call the 'head' of the group and express your nervousness at what is going on and let her know that you want to contact this person immediately because the process has not been what you expected.

Running a group is more than farming out couples to other officiants; it's making sure that the process is working for everyone; you and the officiant. It's never good to be going into the final planning with nervousness about this part.

Make the call. If you need help or recommendations, call me too.