I give up.

Don't do something you'll reget later. We purposely set our wedding for over a year away to give us time to plan and save for the things we want. Well, honestly he wants to get married now because he doesn't want to wait but thats another story.Anyway, don't let other people tell you what to do with your life. If the two of you want a wedding have a wedding, if you want to elope,elope. Either way let it be a decsion the two of you are happy about.

Do you want a wedding? If so, have one. If you try to please everyone else, you'll end up resenting them and mad at yourself forever

There will always be naysayers in life. Don't let them destroy your dream.

Ask yourself first if you would later regret it if you didn't have the wedding you've always wanted.

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Ask yourself what do you want in a wedding, then just have that without the "extras." For example, if you want a traditional dress, then get one, but if you don't care about a "fancy" reception, then have only what you want.

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Taylor your wedding to what you want, not what others think you should have. It will help with the costs if you are only paying for what you want, NOT what is EXPECTED. For example, have a small wedding party. I'm only having MOH and BM (no flower girl, ring bearer, etc.) because that's all I want.

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Good luck!

I talked to FH and we decided to take some time to think about what to do and how to compromise. Until then we're not talking to anyone about the wedding plans. He saw how upset I was and said that we would figure something out that will make both of us happy.

I would suggest a small wedding with people who do support you.

That's more like it Star, you both need to be on the same boat. Some of us women, always believe that the wedding is just about us, it mainly is but unfortunately you can't marry yourself, you need a partner with you, so you both need to decide together what's best for you. I'm glad you guys talked about it, I hope you 2 work this out & I hope you do get everything you want & a happy FH by your side. Best of luck with everything dear.

If having a real wedding means this much to you, don't give up. If you do, you'll spend your entire life regretting it. I'd hate for you to blame your FH & his family for not having the wedding you've always dreamed of. This only happens once & I'd hate for you to miss out on the wedding of your dreams. Good luck with whatever you choose.

In my opinion, your wedding should be a special day that you will always cherish and remember so I would rather have a wedding than elope but I understand how you just feel like "throwing in the towel" since everyone else doesn't feel the same. You want people to be excited and share in the joy of your upcoming wedding, not critical about why you should not have one.

How about a small destination wedding? Many resorts have reasonable package that are very eligant. Many of the people who are not supportive of your wedding won't spend the money to come. We are having a beautiful wedding in Key West with many of our good friends attending, but the best part is that most of FH's family are not coming (a relief to both of us). I really think you'll regret giving up on your dream of a wedding.

Have you considered taking the money you were going to spend on the wedding and having a "weddingmoon"? At least this way you get to do something more than a JOP wedding without getting tons of crap from everyone. Believe me I understand how just a few awful family members can ruin the whole thing for you.

Beginning a marriage with regrets is not a good thing. Talk to your FH and tell him how important it is to you, and don't share with family. If they are not writing the checks, it is none of their business.

Good luck!

If someone said what was said to you I would have turned around and said "Oh good so I can take you off the guest list!"

Don't give up on your wedding if that is what you really want. I struggle on and off with having one because we could put the money to use on a down payment on a house (or towards my college loans) but its important to me to have this day. My mom passed away 6 years ago so she never got to meet FH but I know she would kick me hard in the behind if I didn't have my dream wedding.

I have a bride and groom that are having a destination wedding with those closest to them, and then they are having a reception 2 months later. Not your typical reception though. We are going very simple with a pig roast and tropical plants, summer cocktail attire, shells and sand. They are getting married in Mexico on the beach, so they are also going to put pictures of the actual ceremony out at the reception for everyone to enjoy.

Bottom line, take the time to figure out what is best for the BOTH of you. Consider it one of your first sessions of comprimise out of many to come over the years. If you need any help, please do not hesitate to contact me free of charge.

Kim Schrack

(717) 571-0557

You shouldn't have to give up on what you want. My Fiance was the exact same way, he did NOT want all the pomp and circumstance that comes with a wedding, he wanted a small wedding preferably in jeans and tshirts at the courthouse and I wanted this huge elaborate weddding ... so ultimately I just had to talk to him and tell him how important having a nice wedding was to me and because I only plan on doing this once, I wanted to make it a special day and though I understood where he was coming from this was really important to me. You know what he got on board, and we both fell in love with the same church and the same venue and now he's on board.

DO NOT GIVE UP. that's the whole point! who else are you doing the wedding for!? it's for you and your husband, that's who!!! everyone else has or will do whatever they choose, so this is it! make it amazing, and wonderful, just how you want

Ugh i've heard this too. and i say it to myself too. when i'm 100 wooden napkin rings i think, what the hell am i doing!? .... and then i swipe my trusty visa lol. but do what makes you happy. i don't think it's a waste of money as a whole... the memories are priceless..