I feel like going bridezilla!! RSVP Vent!!

I could care less if people mail it back to me as long as they RSVP somehow!! I am dreading this.

This sounds like my life right now. Our deadline was July 23rd (Saturday) and I am still missing 20 RSVP cards out of the 130 invitations we sent out. That's after marking a few people down whose RSVP's I never got back because they told me in person. I really need the card back as we're doing a plated meal with food choices. It's so frustrating trying to get a hold of people. I never thought it would be this hard for some people. I am hoping there are magically a bunch in my mailbox when I get home from work today. Good luck!

Aw man...I'm currently in the process of sending out my ivites (hopefully tomorrow) and I know it will be major drama. I like many of you have offered 2 ways to RSVP, but if someone hasn't by my deadline then I'm so sorry for them, they will not even be allowed into the venue.

This is the single most frustrating part of this entire wedding process.

This was something I was really hoping would not be a problem. I sent the save the dates back in December so everyone should have their calendars marked so when the invites came in this should have been a no brainer. Or you would think. I'm a week away and still missing over 30 RSVP's. I mean really, how hard is this??? Drives me nuts!

I'm so happy my Day of Coordinator will make all the calls and e-mails to people who haven't rsvp'd when it gets close. I can totally understand the frustration though!

I hear ya!! We sent out 107 invites. They are supposed to RSVP by August 8th and we are currently waiting for 79 more RSVP's. One of my family member's actually said...oh do I have to send that in. UM YEAH! If you want to eat you do. I totally feel your pain.

I'm starting to think I need to not be such a bitch about it and just write down when someone calls me and says I'm going to be there. But why spend extra money and postage on RSVP's if noone's going to use them? And my biggest worry is either having too much food or not enough. I feel like hanging a sign with a list of the RSVP's I recieved and if your name isn't on the list you don't eat.

When was your RSVP date?

WOW you KNOW these ppl have been to weddings before.... WTH?!?!!?!?!?! YES you have to send it in!! DUH! OMG i am not looking forward to this.... as long as they at least TELL ME...definately... then i'll be a little happy, but yea im stamping it for you.. mail it back.. otherwise you've already WAISTED 47 cents (its 47 still right?!)

Hearing all of this makes me decide not to send RSVPs expecting a response. I am sending the card with the # of guest and I wont bother with the other crap. It is pretty silly not to respond though.... But as much as all the other details cost I would not even bother..... Takes the frustration away.

@Leyila however these guests are RSVPing accept them and ask them what they are eating, i had guests RSVP all types of ways. Some of my guests said they mailed them and i did not get them back. at my wedding of course you will have place cards or a seating chart and that is your indicator of who RSVP and who did not. i'm actually having a big easel as my seating chart with one of my best friends, helping guests find out where they are seating and if their name is not on the list, they can go to the restaurant to eat that is attached to my venue, end of story. i'm so done with people.

I am dreading this part. I really hope they get back to me. I'm asking them to RSVP a month out so I have time to call everyone who doesn't. I am also giving them 2 options to try and get more people on the ball. They can mail it back, or RSVP on my WW website. Best of luck!

My guests didnt have to mail back anything. All they had to do was RSVP online or call the gmail mailbox I set up. Out of 260 people invited only 100 people have RSVPed. I have created a FB event to remind people to go RSVP and some people started RSVPing to that. Of the Yes RSVPs I inputted most of them because ppl say things like you know I'm coming. So I am also on the verge of unleashing my inner bridezilla. People also have not reserved their rooms. The yankees are in my town the weekend of my wedding so not only will the rooms book up fast but they will sell out quickly and I dont want to hear people complain about the money or availability later. I also dont want people to give me the "ohhh I cant afford to come sob story" when I'm doing everything in my power to keep the cost down. I'm also paying over 800 bucks for a guest shuttle.

I hear ya! I sent out 92 invites and numbered the back of them, because people don't even right their names on the cards so you have to guess who they are. Out of the 92 sent out I am still missing 27 response cards. I have texted and facebooked reminders to people. Hopefully that will speed up their returning them. Some of these people just got married so they should know better!

I went “bridezilla” for RSVPs, and you know what? It worked. If you’re gonna use your bridezilla card, I’d use it here. I went from about half of my people telling me whether or not their coming to about 90% response after hounding people every day on Facebook. Messaging people, texting them, texting people who could get a hold of other people. I spelled out the consequences: I will probably not have enough food, chairs, etc if you don’t tell me you’re coming yet show up anyways. I was called a b**** by a cousin who isn’t coming (on a public FB post), so hey, if that’s all I get from a family member that’s really not important, ok? Get those numbers!