i excused my maid of honor from the wedding party two weeks prior to the big day

My big day is 1/18. I asked my wedding party early last year and they all graciously accepted. Since then. My maid of honor never planned a shower. Didn’t even ask me if someone else was doing it. Never took the lead to solidly plan my bachelorette party. Three days before the party, we still didn’t have hotel. Didn’t know where we were meeting or when. I got frustrated and booked hotel for everyone. Then my other bridesmaids planned an impromptu shower for me to take place during the party weekend. As soon as the hotel was booked, my moh, who was just getting back home from her other travels, said she was embarrassed and “on the fence” about coming to the party, but that still intended to come. She also said she had a flu. The night before the party. She announced she was too sick to come. And sent me screenshots of her texts with other people where she was telling them she was coughing and her head hurt. I expressed that I would have to excuse her at this point because I found her to be highly unreliable, but that she should still pay me back her portion of the hotel since the rooms were booked for her as well. She refused. Also asked her for her dress so I could have a stand in. She ultimately agreed to give it to me only if I would accept that as the hotel pay back. She states my expecting her to still pay for hotel is absurd because she didn’t come to the party and I excused her from the wedding. Thoughts??