I don't want wedding photos taken by guests on Social media. Help!

Today is "Reenski is taking the words out of my mouth day."

I totally get not wanting your entire life and private moments splashed across social media. I definitely don't think you come across as rubbing anything in anyone's face.

LOL, Jules. I'll type slower.

Like Mrs. Del Grosso, I attempted to have an unplugged wedding -- signs made by some of the ceremony entrances, written on the website and on the program, still have 6-7 cameras pointed my way as I walked down the aisle. I also saw one of H's cousins brought her son to our adult wedding. All you can really do at that point is think "Eff it" and keep walking to your groom.

I know some other ladies have said they were happy to see pictures immediately afterward. I wasn't happy or unhappy about it. It just was what it was.

Unless you confiscate phones and cameras, I doubt that it'll be 100% unplugged. How many times have people (or you) gone to concerts and snapped pictures when the sign clearly states "No Flash Photography or Video Recording Devices"...

You can disable your FB account that way no one can tag you and nothing will appear on your timeline.

I've already discussed with FH about this same topic. He has over 1100 FB friends and I have nearly 700...and many of our friends are mutual. We've accepted the fact that when you're on social media, people want to share in your celebration via social media. My feeling is that our family and close friends are there with us, and they all will see first hand that we've been announced Mr. & Mrs.

Before social media, people still snapped Polaroids during the ceremony and reception and had an instant pic of what was taking place.

My rule: Snap. Post. Tag.

I'd love to be able to see what my guests saw from their point of view.

The whole thing will be hard, but at least for the ceremony. I hate looking out into a sea of cameras and phones.

What about people posting pics of themselves at your wedding? You want them to have a good time and enjoy. If you make things too restrictive it sets a tone. Think about how it makes you feel at a concert when they say no pictures. People post pics on social media about things that are exciting and make them happy. Your wedding being one of those moments. I would be flattered. Also, their pics wont be as good as your professional pics. Its just a way for them to tell the world just how much they enjoyed sharing that moment with you

Just set your FB settings so you can't be tagged but you really can't stop people from uploading their own pictures to their own page though because well it's theirs. BUT you can prevent you from being tagged thus not allowing those who are not mutual friends to see the pics.

We are asking our guests to download the Wedpics app but only so the pics they take don't get lost out in the ether of cyberspace. A friend & I went to a concert 2 yrs ago & she took all the pics...I have yet to see ANY. Didn't want that happening @ my wedding; I def wanted to have all my pics in one place

It's hard to control every single person...and most people don't do it to spite you...they're just so happy they want to share their happiness with everyone in the world. And social media is just the way everyone does that. You can have an "unplugged" wedding...but I'd still expect for some guests not to listen. On the day of the wedding you'll have a million other things to worry about...sit out signs and have an announcement made if you want...but if it does happen...just let it slide and go on to enjoy your life with your FH.

I just though of this... how about getting a photo booth as a way to divert people from taking their own pics?? Sort of a gift to them for not posting/taking pics?? Just a thought!

I would just let them know that images will be published post-wedding, and if they select to take individual images for themselves, then they can keep them on their mobile phones or cameras until you publish yours first.

We had our officiant announce, "Please enjoy the moment and allow the photographer to worry about photos"

This was because we didn't want people holding up cameras and phones in our pro pics.

More pictures on Facebook of the ceremony than the reception the next day.

You can try to control it, but people won't listen.

I still love the pro pics I've seen, even though there are like 5 cameras or phones being held up. Sigh.

My partner and I are thinking about having an unplugged ceremony (and keeping things "unplugged" until after the "ceremonial" portions of the reception). Like a lot of people, we don't want lots of cameras in our pro pics.

We're going to put the information on our website, and if we have programs, we'll add it there as well. We may also put up a sign. I also have some family members I know will try to take pictures anyway (my uncle took video of my Bat Mitzvah d'var by hiding the camcorder under his chair, so ... clearly not a stickler for the rules!), so I'll approach them individually.

If people try to take pictures anyway, or put pics up on social media, then whatever. But this will at least decrease the number of pics up on social media without our permission.

I also want to add:

Weddings are, for most people, a private event. It is NOT selfish or rude to not want photos of your private wedding plastered on social media.

Do what robin suggested, but realize that there isn't really anything you can do to guarantee they will go with your wishes.

2 stories kinda related.

In Rome, pictures aren't allowed in the Sistine Chapel. There are signs before the entrance and every once in a while a voice would say, "No pictures please." I sat on a bench for maybe 10 minutes and saw at least 10 people taking pictures.

In Paris, photos also are not allowed in the Sacre Coure. There, if a nun sees you taking photos, she'll come up to you, demand your camera, delete the photos, and return the camera to you. It happened to a guy on our tour.

If you don't want images taken, you have to tell them straight that you don't want images taken. If you don't want cameras in the air for your expert wedding photos, you need to say.

I don't mind people posting pictures, i just don't want them TAKING pictures during the ceremony. They can take them during the cocktail hour and reception and post all they want. I would just like their undivided attention for the 15 minutes during my ceremony. I don't want all these flashes and noises going off from people's phone's and camera's during the ceremony. We are having a small wedding with about 40 people and the ceremony will take place in one of the rooms of the mansion we are having it in. It will be a small venue and if other people's phone's are like mine, you can't turn off the shutter sound off your phone. I just don't want the noise and fiddling around that comes with pictures during the ceremony. I'm going to spread my message about this through word of mouth and then have the minister make an announcement before the ceremony gets started.

I'm so sick of this mentality that says everyone has to be connected to everyone and everything ALL THE TIME.

This is someone's sacred moment. As an officiant, and I would presume as a couple (unless you're a Kardashian) this is a serious, life changing event. I would hope that your guests would care more about experiencing it in person than taking crappy photos and posting them for people who weren't invited and probably don't care to see.

But that's just me.

Good point Wendy C.

I didn't think of that, but I'm not upset about it. In the end, I had fun seeing myself tagged in all the photos, which were there long before the pro ones.

We are making a little "business" card size requests that will be put at each place setting as well as strategically throughout the reception hall (ex: at the sign in table, at the bar, with the DJ, ect.) - the cards are going say something along the lines of "if you took digital photos today we would love to see - please post to our website xxxx and some kind of thank you for capturing those candid moments"

I personally don't care if the photo's go viral on FB but I thought that our idea might work for you as well.

Aski them to post there versus FB or Twitter or any of the other social media sites.

Also, maybe you can change your FB/Twitter settings to "approve" tagging/mentions.

Good luck