I don't want this stupid wedding :'(

: ( I am SO sorry that you feel that way. You're almost through with the process, and it'll be done soon. Please just don't lose sight of the purpose of the wedding. While mothers can be stressful (from both sides) during this time, you still have the man of your dreams : )

I am so sorry. *Hugs* for you. That sounds so stressful =[

It may seem really out of control now but when the day comes, you'll be marrying the love of your life, and the day will be amazing. Your parents don't really have the right to add so many extra people. Is there any, ANY way you can cancel and just elope or something? I hope you feel better, I reallly do.

Random idea! Get married without the extra people by changing everything at the last minute and the wanted guests are in the know by mouth? Kinda rude but it's what they did on How I Met Your Mother when Marshall and Lily got married. But that's a TV show....not reality.

Well it's a little late to turn back now. My advice to you is to just think about the end result and I'm sure everything will turn out perfect.

Grab your FH and go and elope..

Well, at this point invitations are out and its almost like you agreed to the larger wedding because you didn't stand up to your mom. Not saying that I would have, I probably would have been in the same boat as you if mine wanted to be involved too much. At this point I say focus on what a wedding really is about-you marrying the love of your life and your best friend. Try to remember that ultimately, the guests and even your mom and dad don't really matter in the bigger scheme of it all. I imagine that when you walk down that aisle your focus will be on him and not that you have 20 more people than you wanted at your wedding.

I just want to elope right now. No one would be happy with that. That's the only thing that would make me happy right now. I'm extremely upset. Don't even want to work tomorrow lol

Funny cuz since I was 14 I said I wanted to elope and get married. til reality hit me and we knew our parents would DIE. UGH!

At this point it's time to let go of the "what I always dreamed" and turn this wedding into "it's a beautiful wedding". There are alot of things in life that don't quite turn out the way we want but it's called MAKING LEMONADE OUT OF LEMONS. Allow this to be a happy MOMENT for a lifetime marriage. Don't let other people's ideas total destroy. At least you are getting MORE than what you planned and not less. Breathe and stop looking at all the wrong and focus on enjoying your moment. Then, from this point forward, don't take anyone elses ideas...just do what you want to do and know that soon you will be married. Don't let a few hours of a wedding, destroy a lifetime of marriage. It's just a little too late to complain about it now. You should have put your foot down way ahead of the game. I don't know...maybe it's just a little PMS (smile).

It doesn't matter if they're unhappy about it - it's YOUR wedding! Unless people have personally put their own money into your wedding, they don't have much to be upset about. If the wedding is making you this unhappy, you just need to figure out what's best for YOU! Do what'll make you happy!

No kidding-I've seen/read this too many times on this site. Mothers/In-laws interfering with the wedding and trying to make it THEIR wedding and thinking about their wants and desires as opposed to thinking about the people who are getting married! I'm so sorry you are going this.

Focus on what the day is about, its about marrying your FH not the Wedding itself. Yes the wedding is for show, but has been shoved into our heads that it must be a "perfect" day, the wedding & most things involved are only material things, those things wont make the marriage or break it. The love between you & your FH will make that day strong & unforgettable! Just keep in mind why you are getting married & all will fall into place! Good luck, *hugs!*

Very sorry to hear. I agree with Maria - what's done is done and make some lemonade out of these lemons! Enjoy the company who will be there (even if they weren't on the original guest list) and make sure you get your extra $600 out of that dress by wearing it "just because you feel like it." Make sure every detail of your registry is 100% you, if you have one - so that these extra guests get you things YOU need

So sorry Mrs. B but like other wiser people have said on here its almost over. Try to see it as a party thrown by others for you and at the end of it all you'll be married! Not really an option to back out but the option you DO have is how you handle it. Some things we do to make others happy and this seems to be one of them. In the end you can say you did the right thing and let your mom rule the day as she obviously wants to do. Its sad but keep the end in sight, its almost there girl!!! Much love sent your way, I hope you have a nice evening. XO

This is a tough situation. Everyone wants to take over on your day. But do understand that your family are on your side (even though right now it does not seem so). I think you should be open and clear the air, talk to FH sanely and maturely - express your thoughts civilly. Of course, you probably need to go forward, or, if it is not too late, cut back. Perhaps suggest that a smaller wedding will make way for a more fancier honeymoon.

Or, next year, renew your vows, just the two of you with your BM & MOH and take a quick trip to Vegas. Whatever happens, you have to be happy too. You are both in this marriage and you can't enter it being so upset. Do make peace and see if compromise is possible. Good luck! We are routing for you!

Forget about the wedding. You are getting married.Who cares if there are more people there to share in your joy than you planned on. My wedding was no where near what I had planned. It came to the point though that I had to chose between a wedding or getting married though. Yes its a bummer that you can't have the wedding you hoped for but you will have the man of your dreams at least. You can always have a private renewal in a year even.

*sigh* I totally understand. Our wedding has too turned into something totally other than what we wanted (originally talked about). However in our case it is not family that did it but FH. It started out as 12 to 20 close family members being there. Now we have close to 80 people invited.

If it was me I would truly either cancel everythind and elope or cancel everything and do a simple intimate wedding with only those I truly wanted there present. It is your day and you deserve to have what you want.

Aww, hun I'm so sorry your wedding has bee hijacked. Personally I agree with the other girls who said to elope. I know a lot of people will disagree and think I'm tacky but sweetie, if someone took over my wedding, i'd grab my fh and a couple of our closest friends, wear that dress that broke your bank and get married. Then i'd go to the "wedding" and have a kick a** time with my little secret. Just breathe and remember, you get to spend the rest of your life with the one you love! How AWESOME is that?!?! Try to have a good time. And I'm serious, I would totally be at the jop right now or heck, at a drive through in Vegas. Haha whatever is in your mind and heart, just do it! Life is way to short to regret things girl! If you want to make yourself happy and still make your parents happy, what they don't know won't hurt them... good luck!

I feel you, too. My dream wedding since I was little was to elope. It would be fun, spontaneous...But everything about this wedding has to be planned and exactly opposite of what I want. I am trying to enjoy it all the same, but some nights the stress of dealing with finding a photographer or figuring out how to decorate everything keeps me up at night - for hours!

As much as people say the wedding is the bride's, I don't think it really is. It's for everyone else...

AMEN, Sass!!!!! @Mrs. B: Mrs. Kline just gave you the best advice I've seen in a LOOOOONNNGGGG time. You're getting the marriage of your dreams!! Who cares about the wedding?! Things could be so much worse...you're a lucky, lucky woman.

Hmmm tough situation. But try to make the best out of it, if possible enjoy it. Maybe you can have a first anniversary 'wedding' celebration your way.