i dont think i want my sister to help with my wedding

It sounds like you’re just as judgmental of her as she is being of you. If you don’t want her there, don’t invite her. If you do want her there, just send her an invite and let her decide if she wants to come or not.

Your FHs race shouldn't be any of her concern. There are certainly ways to express your disdain for that line of questioning with tact. I would make it known from the beginning that you are in a healthy and stable relationship that you'd love for your family to be apart of, if they can be respectful. At the end of the day, it's your wedding, you decide who to invite!

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Agree 100% with this

View Quoted Comment I grew up with my siblings i am just use to their rude comments. She is so shallow and i have always played nice. Always held my tongue. On my wedding day, i just don't want drama. Guess i am expecting the worse. I need to start concentrating on making the wedding romantic for the two of us and forget trying to please other people.

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100% agree.

View Quoted Comment I agree. I think i am stressing myself out trying to please and make my family happy. I just need to concentrate on making this event romantic for the two of us....stop stressing myself out. I am so stressed right now........just thinking of everything that can go wrong.

Honestly, if my siblings had made comments like that about my husband, they would have been uninvited to the wedding. The only people who you need at your wedding are those that love and support you and your FH 100%. But that is completely up to you and how much you want to put up with. Sorry you are having to deal with rude comments. I hope everything works out!

View Quoted Comment I agree too. I need to relax and forget about trying to please other people. This is supposed to be about romance between the two of us. I am letting my family stress me out. I just get a little angry when people "talk mess" when they are far from perfect themselves. I do want to see my nieces though.

View Quoted Comment This. The single women with multiple baby daddies comment is super judgemental and pretty disgusting. Maybe your sister's comments (however inappropriate they are) are tit for tat because she gets the same judgement from you...

I hear you on family causing drama and stress! I joked with my MOH that I need to hire bouncers to kick people out if they start anything, I was mostly joking at least. At the end of the day it’s about you and your FH and you should only invite people you want to be there to witness and celebrate your marriage with you. Don’t let their negativity effect you or stress you out. It’s easier said than done, but I would try not to lash out or be negative back because it’ll just fuel it. Is it possible she was just trying to get s reaction out of you? That she knows what she’s doing and exactly how to push your buttons? Sometimes you've gotta be the bigger person, and I would hope your sister will realize you’re not going to take the bait and give up.

View Quoted Comment All you can do is take a step back and remember who you are doing this for, yourself and FH! Sometimes I run through and prepare for every possible outcome of a certain situation. It's normal to anticipate the possibilities, just don't stress over them. Enjoy your engagement!

Keep her out as much as you can until the day of. I feel like she will stress you out more with all these smart A comments that would only hurt you and steer your focus away from what you want.

Also, if you have girlfriends, or have a good relationship with your parents or close cousins, have them keep her in check.

I am having a small ceremony with all of the people that mean the most to us and then a big reception with friends and family. There's some people I felt obligated to invite but didn't want opinions from and those people only got invited to the reception. That way you and your husband can have a romantic ceremony and then there will be so many people at the reception it will distract from whatever negativity other people feel like carrying around with them.