Beginner April 2020

i don’t like my fiancé best man

Danielle, on February 10, 2019 at 2:23 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 26
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Is it wrong to make my fiancé pick another person to be his best man?


  • KiwiDerbyBride
    Super May 2015
    KiwiDerbyBride ·
    Why don’t you like him? Unless he’s said unforgivable things about you, deliberately tried to set your fiancé up with someone else, or committed assault or some other similar crime, then you’re out of line asking your fiance to pick someone else.
  • Danielle
    Beginner April 2020
    Danielle ·
    It’s bc of past history with him you mentioned a few things in your comment. And bc of it i don’t like him and my fiancé is aware of it. I know he will pick some one else but i don’t know if i should make him. I just feel like why should i have to look at him in my wedding when i know i don’t like him 🤷🏽‍♀️
  • O
    Dedicated September 2019
    Oregonbride ·
    I would not advise this. It's like asking him to choose between you and his friend. I would end up resenting someone who made me do that.
  • Danielle
    Beginner April 2020
    Danielle ·
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    I can understand this 😩
  • C
    Super July 2019
    Crystal ·
    I don't like my fh best man either and I know he isnt going to throw my fh a bachelor party either. But, I love my fh and hes happy with his choice. Do not make him pick someone else that is not okay. It is his day to and whether or not he acts like it it will hurt his feelings if you say no.
  • Rachel
    Savvy May 2020
    Rachel ·
    That’s tough. I understand not wanting any drama/bad vibes on your wedding day. I would say to talk to your FH about it, but approach it gently. I’m sure he’s aware of your feelings about his best man. Maybe just ask if he’s 100% certain this is the guy he wants, and if he says yes, then you might just have to leave it at that.
  • M
    Mim ·
    You get to choose your party on your own and he gets to choose his. You can however, talk to him about his friend's behavior as it relates to non-wedding life.
  • Paige
    Devoted September 2019
    Paige ·
    You choose your bridesmaids, he chooses his groomsmen. You can’t choose for him, that’s not fair or even right. How would you feel if he told you to choose another maid of honor?
  • Swtnss238
    VIP May 2019
    Swtnss238 ·
    Make him? Is it his wedding too?
  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
    Colleen ·
    I guess you. Need to flip it. How would you like if he asked you to change one of your brides maids?

    on the other hand if he makes you feel bad and you are afraid he will do this on your wedding day. I am not sure why Fiancé would want someone that will make you feel bad at your wedding.

  • Danielle
    Beginner April 2020
    Danielle ·
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    I would die 😩😩
  • Danielle
    Beginner April 2020
    Danielle ·
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    It is his wedding too! I should have said ask him because that’s fair.
  • Disneybride
    Dedicated April 2021
    Disneybride ·
    I dont tell my fiance to do anything I ask. let him have who he wants it's his day too
  • Tara
    Master May 2020
    Tara ·
    That is a tricky spot to be in. I recommend you not ask that if your fiancé. You may just have to grin it and bear, but have your ears alerted about his bachelor party. If he has tried to set him up with someone else, he may try again.
  • Cynthia's and Robert  Wedding Day
    VIP September 2020
    Cynthia's and Robert Wedding Day ·
    You are going be his wife but him and this grromsman might have a bond that you don't understand or know about it. He might have been there when you fh was at his worst point in life. So even if this groomsman have been dirt to you. He could have been that rock to your fh. It could have been a situation where this groomsman actually told your fh I might have not always done what was right by your fh wife. But I know that she is the right one for you. I say let it ride keep positive vibes. The friend/groomsmen will only have to stand by your fh for a few minutes but you will stand with him for the rest of your life.🖤💖
  • Cayla
    Dedicated August 2020
    Cayla ·
    Let it go. He picks who he picks but you should be focused on your FH. If he knows there are issues it's likely he won't pick that person anyway
  • Rae
    Devoted July 2019
    Rae ·
    Have you never talked to him about this before? If he already knows and made this choice then you should try to respect it. If he doesn’t then you should be talking to him about his friendship outside the context of your wedding.
  • Danielle
    Beginner April 2020
    Danielle ·
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    Thank you so much for your kind words. You opened my eyes and I agree. The more I read comments and actually think about it i plan on not even mentioning anything to him about it.
  • Keiwana
    Devoted June 2019
    Keiwana ·
    That’s unfortunate but there’s nothing you can do about it.
  • Cynthia's and Robert  Wedding Day
    VIP September 2020
    Cynthia's and Robert Wedding Day ·
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    You are so welcomed!!!

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