I do, on a Tuesday

If you're fine with having a ton of people decline, go for it. A wedding on a Tuesday is a huge PITA for anyobe who does Not live close by. If you want a small dinner or something with a handful of very close people, it will be fine. Don't expect a large reception with dancing, drinking, and the like.

I would only go to a wedding on a Tuesday if it were someone extremely close to me like my sister. I might also go if it's local and in the evening, but otherwise, nope. That's so inconvenient for your guests. I understand wanting to have it on a special date, but you can't have it on a Tuesday and expect people to attend. If you insist on going this route, prepare for a really high decline rate and annoyance and frustration from your nearest and dearest.

Op. Is the date more important than sharing the day with your close friends and family?

I wouldnt attend a tuesday wedding.

I think it's really important to remember that the date you get married will become a special date to you because it's the date you get married. If there are people that you feel have to be at your wedding, but have said they can't attend if it's on a Tuesday, then you gave to decide if you want the date or the special people.

If you want people there - pick a new date. If you dont care about guest coming or being very inconvenienced - dont care.

Partly. We wanted a longer engagement anyway. We were thinking around two years. The extra time allows us to save more money for it.

He's from Australia and we know there are people we absolutely want to be there that won't be able to afford the tickets so we set aside part of our budget to help them with the cost of coming (and discussed this with them of course so they weren't embarrassed at the last minute. They feel humbled and thankful we care about them that much, and tried to say no, but honestly we can't picture the day without certain friends and family).

If a longer engagement means we can save more money and have the date we want we're all for it. We spent most of our relationship dating over Skype since we were in different countries and this date is a really wonderful day that we spent together and it means a lot to us.

I realize four years is a long time and is strange to most people. But we're okay with it.

Choosing a Tuesday wedding and inconveniencing guests because of a date is so ridiculous.

We do weddings during the week all the time. We are almost as busy on Thursdays as we are on Saturdays. I did a Monday wedding a few weeks ago (not a holiday Monday) and almost every single person showed up. If it's so inconvenient and obnoxious, then they can say no.

People go out during the week all the time. I don't get why this is such an issue.

As others have said, be prepared for declines. Getting married in the middle of the week is tough. While it's important to pick a day that the couple wants, if you truly want your guests there don't do it in the middle of the week.

As others have said, be prepared for declines. Getting married in the middle of the week is tough. While it's important to pick a day that the couple wants, if you truly want your guests there don't do it in the middle of the week.

If you were important to me (like a close friend, not a 3rd cousin I haven't spoken to in 10 years) I'd leave work early and take the next day off (for an obvious hangover/excuse) and attend. What jobs are people working where they don't get PTO and a year in advance at that?!

On one hand, people CAN have a good time and not get shitfaced so the day shouldn't matter. On the other, if it's that important to get shit faced, take the next day off.

I worried a lot about my initial date, 1/23, and asked everyone and everyone said they would still attend. I wound up changing it to the Saturday before to make it easier on people, but I can totally see where you're coming from with the whole sentimental-about-dates-thing.

Either be okay with a very small guest list, or choose a different day. Friday is a great off-peak day, like you said.

I went to a Tuesday wedding recently, it was suuuuuper obnoxious, had to take Monday and Wednesday off, and the only reason we didn't decline is because the venue was very close to my OOT family I rarely see.

Expect a lot of declines if you plan on hosting a wedding on a Tuesday.

The only time I'd go to a Tuesday wedding is for a DW. They'll have to take more days off. You need to be understanding of that. If you want everyone you love to be there you're going to have to be flexible.

If the date is super important to you, have a small ceremony that day and a reception the following weekend. It's your wedding, do it how you and your FH see fit

@Caitlin long engagement buddy! We got engaged Christmas 2014. Didn't even pick colors until 2 months ago. I think it's awesomely responsible for you to save until you can afford the wedding you want.

I went to a wedding out of town on a thursday and that was difficult. Don't do a Tuesday wedding

If you have a wedding on a Tuesday Wednesday or Thursday, be ready for declines because people will have to work the day of, the day before, AND the day after.

As others have said, your wedding day will be special no matter what the date is-- it becomes special because that's the day you got married.

Yeah, why would you use PTO to go to a wedding for someone you love......

maybe you don't love them enough? Problem solved. Isn't it great how that works out?

Oh that's a bummer as a guest!