I do, on a Tuesday

Don't have it on a Tuesday

What she said ^

ETA: The date that you get married on will become special because it's your wedding day, so choose one that won't inconvenience the majority of your guests.

Prepare for a lot of declines. People have already said they wouldn't want to go.

Do what you want but be ready for declines

We've also been discussing having our wedding on an "off day", mostly to save $ on the venue. I think a Monday, Thurs evening, or Friday makes more sense since people taking an extra day off of work at least get the benefit of a 3-day weekend. We're planning a relatively small wedding with only our closest family and friends so most of them will be okay with it. If you want a lot of people there make it on a weekend. Otherwise, I think the most important people in your life will probably make it happen.

Most people don't have a lot of vacation days so I would host on a weekend so they don't have to take off.

If the date is that important can you do it another year where it falls on a different day of the week? My fella and I have a date we wanted so pulled up a calendar on our phones and said, "okay where does it fall on a Friday, Saturday, or Sunday?" and planned accordingly.

If you're okay with the date being moved can you bump it up to the weekend before? Or just hold off on signing the marriage certificate to that Tuesday so the Tuesday can be your "officially legal" day?

If you really want certain people there,and they are telling you they can *not* make it you can also consider eloping. But expecting to pick that day and for them to just figure out how to show up is unreasonable.

You really have two options here, both with their pros and cons. You can either stick with the date that is meaningful and accept that many will decline. Or, pick another date to increase people's likelihood of attending. You and your FH need to decide what is more important to you both.

What is more important - the date or having your nearest and dearest there?

If the date is more important than your family and friends, go for it?

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Like the previous posters have asked, why did you pick a Tuesday? If you're looking for an "off"day to save money or if the date is super important to you then go for it! However the trade-off is that you may get more declines

Depends on why the date is so important.

My wedding is on a Thursday but we made sure to ask everyone who really mattered if they would mind it before we moved into planning. Everyone said they would attend so we didn't really care. It is way more common than people think, but a Tuesday makes it right in the middle of the week and some people just can't ask for time off.

We are having a Friday wedding but with our guests in mind that they will have the next day off. I would do some thinking on this before you set it. If you're okay with not a lot of people attending then I say go for it but if you want to have a wedding with reception and want all your family and friends there to experience it I would reconsider.

This falls under do what you want, but don't get bent out of shape when people disapprove and don't expect them to go out of their way for you.

I'm having a Thursday wedding before a holiday weekend with limited OT guests. I check with VIPs and they said they wouldn't miss it for the world. Once we did that, we were good to know. Personally for my nearest and dearest I would take off on any day of the week. That's what vacation days are for.

"the date is very important to us" ETA: like PPs pointed out, the date you get married is your wedding date and it will be important because you got married that day.

@S&J- Not everyone gets vacation days. It's great that your VIPS said yes, but OP's didn't. It comes down if OP wants their guests there or not. If not, then have it on Thursday. If they do, then they should move the date.

The only way I would go to a Tuesday wedding is if it were local enough that I didn't have to leave work early, and it were just ceremony and dinner, so I could get home before 11.

A good friend of mine got married on a Wednesday. She and her husband went to city hall in the afternoon (just them and his parents) and then took under 20 people to dinner that evening. It was a beautiful, intimate reception, and nobody invited had to travel more than 35 minutes to get there.

My MOH got married in the middle of the day on a Monday because they liked the way the date looked. It was inconvenient for everyone, and she got a ton of declines: she had 10 guests total at her wedding. Expect that. People don't want to take off work for your special day.