I do not want my mother's boyfriend at my wedding

@OP, I don't recommend inviting him. His perv ways will probably make your guests uncomfortable. I would be scared to invite him around children (if you're having children there) and definitely so around teenagers. He doesn't seem to be interested in boundaries so that would make me fear others safety.

Also, can you have a less expensive wedding and use the money (that you are planning to spend on a wedding) towards an apartment? Whether you invite him to the wedding or not, he will still be in your home afterwards.

@Jay we honestly can't move out around here. We can't afford it and try to save up. To find a studio around here can be 1200, without the initial deposit and pet deposit, where we are looking to move that same 1200 is about 2 months rent. So we just need a couple months to get some annoying stuff sorted out and then move. We probably won't be telling them until after we move because you're right, it will look bad if we stay there after telling them he can't come.

@LoveLoveLove he won't be in our home after the wedding. We are moving out of state in 2 months. The wedding is next year.

There is no need to tell them before you move out. I am more worried about your younger sister.

My mom wasn't invited to my wedding. Best decision ever! She would have caused so much drama. Don't let ANYTHING RUIN your day. You are allowed to keep the people who make you feel uncomfortable and bad far away from you. Here is a question. Would you let this guy around your future kids? If the answer is no then he doesn't get an invite. I didn't invite anyone who I felt uncomfortable around even if the decision felt bad at first.

If your mom chooses her boyfriend over your wedding day... You need to cut her out of your life. That is an awful excuse of a mom

I still think you need to invite him. We are not fond of FH's mom's BF. He is a looser scumbag who uses her for money. He will be invited though because they have been together for 6 years and although we don't like him, she does. They aren't paying for anything btw.

If you're living with them then you should move if he really creeps you out. I don't see how you can't allow your mom to bring her SO otherwise.

I second invite but ignore

@Karen that k god he hasn't really done anything to creep out my little sister in the way he does me and my Fiancee. She hates him so she is pretty rude to him and he just doesn't make an effort to talk to her anymore.

@NotThatFreakinMary we are moving out in 2 months when we have our ducks in a row.

@Kate I guess plus ones wasn't exactly the right way to phrase it. Since we are paying for it on our own we weren't going to have guests bring their SO's unless we are personally friends with them as well. It might not be polite, but we don't have the extra money to spend on people we don't really know or care about.

View Quoted Comment Yup, I know this is an old post but I’m basically dealing with the same thing right now, minus the living situation. I don’t live with my mother and her husband thank God.