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I CAN'T WAIT TILL THE WEDDING!!!

Heather, on April 12, 2012 at 11:52 AM Posted in Planning 0 5

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I want the planning to be over with and the day to be here. This week has had I major event after another. First some background FH decided to ask is one really close friend of ten or so years and our room mate(FH been living with him for the past 6 years.) to be his best man about two months ago and he said he'd do it. Well this monday come and he decides he needs to talk to us I was like ok he just wants to know what he has to do boy was I wrong. He informs us that he has decided to steep down and tell FH to go with his second pick. FH says that is fine that he didn't want a best man anyway.UGH. So about five mins after this all went down I get an aol IM from x-best man that said " So much of this insanity could have been avoided with a nondenominational service." not i get everyone has their own believes and what not but i had a talk with him months ago explaining that although i am catholic we are having whe wedding outside there is no mass and no readings. I asked FH (cont)

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Devoted June 2012
Heather · on April 12, 2012 at 12:04 PM
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Why he decided to not be BM and he(BM) is having problems at home and thinks I am making things to fancy. So I asked FH if he was alright with what had just taken place and he said yes. What bothering the whole thing is that it seems to be bothering/annoying me more the FH. and i swear if another person says "well guys just don't care" I will scream..

So on tuesday I finally was able to get FH to men's warehouse to pick out tuxes(the good) the guys will only have to pay 121.00ish. So when we get home i get on facebook and message all the GM and give them the info that they need. within 20 mins of getting the message the x-BM now GM comes down and askes if they are really having to pay 121.00 for a tuxes rental for one day. FH said yup GM said now i am having second thoughts. Ill say this before I go on this guy is employed with the state he works for SUNY in IT, so its not like he doesn't have the 121.00. Anyway to say the lest I am a bit worried that he may decide to not be a GM.
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Heather · on April 12, 2012 at 12:05 PM
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I guess i'm just really bothered by it all
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Labake · on April 12, 2012 at 12:12 PM
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Hi Heather. It seems like there is something bothering him about your wedding that he is not sharing or he just doesn't care enough to be involved in the wedding.

Either way I think you and your FH need to have a serious talk with him. You guys can't be expected to be made to feel bad every step of wedding planning.

The wedding is less than two months away. You guys need to find out from him whether he is in or out.
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Kimmi · on April 12, 2012 at 12:14 PM
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I understand your frustration in all of this, but the thing to remember is that you cannot control BM/GM's decision. If he decides to leave the WP all together, that will be on him. Do not blame yourself for making decisions that he doesn't agree with or want to pay for.
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Heather · on April 12, 2012 at 12:18 PM
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@ Labake : FH says he's still in. I think i'm so worked up over it because really early on i had asked a brides maid to steep down, and that caused a lot of drama an i lost her as a friend, since then we have reconnected but I feel like she and are are going to drift apart after our weddings. and i don't want that to happen to them

@kimmi : I know I can't make him be in the BP if he doesn't want to I would never force him to do it if you didn't want to. And i'm not blaming myself for anything. I just worry that FH is more hurt by his friends actions then he is letting on
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